why does everything have to be so complicated, urg.. Options

[y0urelectrikk]

sigh. well really long story short... I went out with this guy, Pat, for like 9 months. and I was really in love with him. but he broke up with me because I "deserved better" and said I really need to find a new boyfriend... and about a week later he had a new girlfriend. a;lskdf.
so I pretty much cried every single day over that kid.. as pathetic as it sounds. everyone told me I should move on and stop wasting my time, and to just try and forget him.. even though it seems nearly impossible and I would do anything to get that kid back. but absolutely nothing was working and he stopped talking to me. and he lives like 45 mins away so its not like I get to see him in school or anything.
So now its about 3 months later and I figured I would finally listen to what everyone was telling me and try to move on.

so then there's James. James has always been a good friend.. and he recently broke up with his girlfriend. A few days later he asked me out.. so I said yes.
Well.. now his ex (a girl I knew, but wasn't really good friends with) is pissed the f*ck off at me, asking me how I could possibly do that to her because she knew I went through the same thing. and now I feel really bad because I did go though pretty much the same thing and I felt terrible then.

So now I dont know what to do.. even if I do break up with James it wouldnt make things any better for her. She would still be hurt and hate my guts. But now I just feel crappy about the whole thing. Am I supposed to put my life on pause for this girl who will hate me no matter what I do.. until she feels better?.. but end up hurting James... or what?

this is seriously a ... lose, lose, lose sittuation.