Ever happen to you?, GF Can't get over ex... Options

[Justingamemaster]

Hello my GF can't get over her ex.

I dated her with the assumption she would...

but she's so obsessed with him...it's like she'll never get over him. and she admitted to me about never getting over him. and then i said i'd break up with her, and she busted out into tears and wouldn't stop calling me (yeah it was over the phone). Then she said she'd try not to put herself into a situation where she could get back with her ex, and i said okay. And now she's saying she just doesn't want a boyfriend, because she doesn't want someone who she doesn't like...apparently she just likes me "because i like her." and then when i threaten to break up (not like outright threatening, just "well then i'll leave you alone" kinda thing) she can't let me just go. and it makes her sad because i'm so nice and all this and that...

and there's this whole thing about she can't let go of him because if she did it'd be like a waste...she's playing the "well that just shows how much i like him" card...and in a way i'm doing the same thing. she's just using me for temporal happiness...but she won't get around teh fact that if i broke up with her it'd be because i didn't care about her, not because she likes another guy. it'd be my fault, not hers.

and i don't want that.

idk what to do.

[NgocQuyen]

i have a few questions...how long have you two been in a relationship? how long was she and her ex together? and how long has it been since they were not together? i'm just curious so my advice will be kind of acurate and relative i guess? :]