my gf is wild Options

[jayjota3133]

Thanks alot guys, now it turns out she went to a party on wed. before she went in, i called, we talked about her "grinding" her ass on other guys while dancing(u know like hip-hop music), because we discussed a few days ago, that I am NOT comfortable with that shit at all. n she said she wont, that she just wants to dance spanish music and wont "grind" on anyone, now that I call, I ask, so your not gonna grind on any guys. and she says, is there a problem if I do. we talked and she had all intentions to, she said she wasnt going to though, now a few days later, she tells me she actually did "grind" on some guy. how am I supposed to trust someone like that? I love this girl, but cant stand the lies and deceits, and dont know if we can make it. she says I can trust her, and to put trust in her to test her out, but theres no point, I keep doing it, and she keeps failing. miserably, every time. Should I just end this and spare all emotions feelings and everything from going even further? Or try and find a way to stay together and edure this heartache and find a way to build trust together. She wants to be young wild and independent, I want to build a life together. I am turning 22 next month, shes 20 y.o. freshmen in college. She's def. a keeper, not like any i've found, thats for sure.

[*suddenly she*]

You're not comfortable with your girl grinding with a guy. You let her know. She says she won't. Before the party, she doesn't see a problem with it, so she goes ahead and grinds away.

She lied to you by saying she wouldn't. She's done it before.
She apparently doesn't place enough value in what you're not comfortable with.
Right before the party, she's all "I don't see the problem with it," even though you two have already discussed it and you've made your point. If it's a problem with you, it's a problem with her as well.

What kind of girlfriend is that?

She wants to be young wild and independent, I want to build a life together

That basically speaks for itself.

And if you think she's such a keeper, then don't bother asking us what to do. But IMO? She's not worth it.

[EmoEyelinerx]

You're not comfortable with your girl grinding with a guy. You let her know. She says she won't. Before the party, she doesn't see a problem with it, so she goes ahead and grinds away.

She lied to you by saying she wouldn't. She's done it before.
She apparently doesn't place enough value in what you're not comfortable with.
Right before the party, she's all "I don't see the problem with it," even though you two have already discussed it and you've made your point. If it's a problem with you, it's a problem with her as well.

What kind of girlfriend is that?
That basically speaks for itself.

Agreed

She wants to be young wild and independent, I want to build a life together.

This speaks for its self she wants to be young and INDEPENDENT so why bother being with her if she wants to be independednt plus if you dont trust her why continue dating her?