my gf is wild Options

[jayjota3133]

Thanks alot guys, now it turns out she went to a party on wed. before she went in, i called, we talked about her "grinding" her ass on other guys while dancing(u know like hip-hop music), because we discussed a few days ago, that I am NOT comfortable with that shit at all. n she said she wont, that she just wants to dance spanish music and wont "grind" on anyone, now that I call, I ask, so your not gonna grind on any guys. and she says, is there a problem if I do. we talked and she had all intentions to, she said she wasnt going to though, now a few days later, she tells me she actually did "grind" on some guy. how am I supposed to trust someone like that? I love this girl, but cant stand the lies and deceits, and dont know if we can make it. she says I can trust her, and to put trust in her to test her out, but theres no point, I keep doing it, and she keeps failing. miserably, every time. Should I just end this and spare all emotions feelings and everything from going even further? Or try and find a way to stay together and edure this heartache and find a way to build trust together. She wants to be young wild and independent, I want to build a life together. I am turning 22 next month, shes 20 y.o. freshmen in college. She's def. a keeper, not like any i've found, thats for sure.

[orgasm]

So, I read this thread and your other thread and here's what i have to say...

A lot of my friends tried to make relationships work with boyfriends/girlfriends that left for college and only one or two actually did stay together. If you don't have absolute, 100% trust in your girl, there's really no point in keeping the relationship up because otherwise, you're going to worry all the time, accuse her of doing things you don't want her to do, and sooner or later, she's going to get sick of it.

I think the best thing you can do is turn your relationship into an open relationship for a while - let her and you both test the waters and start seeing other people without feeling any guilt, etc. That way, when she's back with you and she still wants to be with you, you'll know that whatever type of relationship you two have is real.

But the thing is, most people aren't comfortable with "open relationships" and since you seem like the jealous type of boyfriend, you probably wont go for it. Just take a break from the relationship, let her do what she wants with other people... and in the end, if she still comes back to you, then it's pretty obvious who she wants to be with.