confused doesn't explain it., the new guy. Options

[heytherekiddo]

alright, straight to the point.

i've been going out with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. things have been a rollercoaster; fights, make-ups, etc. i love him, i do. he makes me happy, but when i tell him his faults and right-from-wrong, he does the same thing over again. it drives me crazy. i feel like i often have to babysit him and to make it short, i feel as if our relationship isn't to its full potential.

but he is a great guy, overall.

then there's this new guy that comes along. smart, responsible, VERY POLITE, and knows how to hold himself. i've been talking to him A LOT; around early night to 1 or 3 am, for almost a week.

there was this blurry moment where we confessed to each other that we thought about being together. but of course, with his decency, he won't go forth with it.

now it bothers me so much. i enjoy talking to this new guy and i haven't really been into my boyfriend recently.

so this is the point where i ask myself who do i consider? or better yet, what should i do about all this?

[dahding]

who do you consider?

wow. that just sounds like they're both just there and willing for your every whim. a tad bit selfish. it sounds like your treating the new possibly guy crush as your alternate plan and escape from a problematic relationship.

1. despite how immature or whatever your current boyfriend may be, he doesn't deserve to be set on tenderhooks like that. not really nice. especially since u two have been together for so long.

2. no one likes to be told that they're wrong and they have to fix themselves. and when they are told, it is often very hard to change habits. old habits die hard, memory fails you, the usual. don't judge him too harshly. he's human, like everyone else. he's only 17, as are you. yes, he does have the potential to change, but it takes time. have a serious talk with him about how you feel about how you have to "babysit" him, before you make any other decisions. communication is key, always.

3. no relationship is always at its full potential. why? because there's always room to improve. things that can be better. don't cop out because of problems. don't cut off the source of your problems by finding someone new and more appealing, fix the problems themselves.

4. do you really like the new interest? or is he simply a crush? make sure you get that clear with yourself.

5. "your boyfriend seems immature" well, how can i phrase this...he's a male teenager. yeah, generally, we're pretty immature. suck it up.

6. don't treat the new interest like your backup. it's not fair to him, because he seems like a nice guy by your description.

i'm tired of writing now.