He LIED. Is it a big deal?? Options

[tagheuer]

my bf of five months confessed (actually i confronted him) that he lied to me on still going to school. But in fact took a semester off and had been working full time. so all those times he called me at school, he was probably on lunch break with bunch of coworkers. ARG all the lies!!

His reason for lying, he felt like he was a nobody, he was not good enough for me, and I was too good for him. So he was afride to tell me, he was afride of loosing me. He felt lucky to have me, and always wonder why im with him. Then He started bawling, saying how sorry he was. i actually felt BAD and sorry for him.

so first, should i make a big deal out of the LIE he told me? i don't want to let him go because i really care about him. and really am in love with him... but i hated him for lying.

* This isn't the first time he lied either!! i first found out about his new job(two weeks into) from someone else!! i confronted him and he said he didnt think it was a big deal. i asked him if he still goes to school, he said yes. i asked if theres anything else you need to tell me, he said no. In a way, he didnt want to tell me about the job because not going to school will come out. BUt he still covered up well enough for me not to find out. *

[lostgrl16]

i understand why he lied and the fact that he lied didnt feel good to you, let him know that. i also agree with mishyerr, girls can easily tell the world about how they feel and not get laughed at, yet males can not, thats just how society is. they deal with emotions differently than females. about him "its okay to let him go"- i understand why he said that. when you feel so strongly about someone, yes you'll flip the world upside down to keep that together, but at the same time, you dont want to hold them back either. (thats how i personally feel anyways) but basically if you feel that this relationship is worth it, i mean just talk to him, let him know you'll support him no matter what and you'd rather him not lie anymore. just talk it out, im sure it can be resolved.