boyfriend problems Options

[spongeboblover]

My boyfriend and I have been sorta having problems. Its a long distance relationship so its kinda hard. We started going out March 27th 2007 and we broke up twice already basically trust issues. We broke up on April 4th because i didn't answer my phone because i was at my friends house and got back together. Then we broke up again on the 5th because i was on the phone with my dad and didn't pick up and got back together. He him self says he doesn't trust me. Am i doing stuff for him not to trust me? By going to my friends house and talking on the phone with my dad? Is that not trust worthy? So far today which is the 6th, we have been fine.

I think the relationship is rather boring. I like him but when we talk on the phone neither of us have anything to say. Basically its hey whats what are you doing blah blah blah then silence. Then we end up having phone sex which is alright but i rather not do that ever day like once and awhile is ok then he gets mad because i wont do it.

I think the only reason were together is the videos i send him and the pictures. I barely get any pictures or videos back.

I also think he thinks i do stuff wrong by reading this, Do you think i am doing anything wrong? and also i wanna know what kind of relationship do we have?

Thanks in advance!

[mytangerine]

your guys' relationship is not going to work in the long run. he is way too clingy & paranoid, you're going to end up getting fed up with that. i think you should say how often you see him, that's an important detail because if you don't see him a lot then, that's a mess. long distance, depending on how far apart you guys are just sorta sucks in general, unless both of you are willing to trust each other completely & see each other as much as possible. you can't just have a relationship based on phone sex & just over the phone in general. i think you should dump him for good & find someone more interesting & closer to you. that's my opinion.

[spongeboblover]

your guys' relationship is not going to work in the long run. he is way too clingy & paranoid, you're going to end up getting fed up with that. i think you should say how often you see him, that's an important detail because if you don't see him a lot then, that's a mess. long distance, depending on how far apart you guys are just sorta sucks in general, unless both of you are willing to trust each other completely & see each other as much as possible. you can't just have a relationship based on phone sex & just over the phone in general. i think you should dump him for good & find someone more interesting & closer to you. that's my opinion.

he broke up with me again because i told him i was going to the movies and he ask if i was going with a guy and i said no because thats the truth i was going with my best friend amanda and he didn't believe so he said it was over so i told him it was over for good but yea he lived 2 hours.. it suck cuz neither for us have cars so we never really saw each other but your right im going someone more interesting & closer to you. thanks

So you guys have been together for 11 days and already broke up TWICE? o.O Wow. That's ... amazing to say the least.

As for him, I don't think he's a good boyfriend to you. Relationships are about trust...and if he can't even trust you over the smallest things, such as going to your friend's house or talking to your Dad over the phone...then how is he going to trust you in your long distance relationship. Trust is VERY important in ANY Relationship, but more so in long distance...if he can't trust you, then the future will indeed be very very rocky for you two.

Also, if you have nothing to talk to him about over the phone...then doesn't that tell you something? Sure there might be "chemistry" between you two online, but overtime, being able to have deep conversations is a very important aspect of a relationship. Being able to talk to each other freely is a way of connecting to each other...and if you can't do that...then well...maybe you really shouldn't be with him. Also, one thing I find to be odd is how you don't have anything to talk to him about over the phone. I remember when I started going out with my boyfriend...I had SO much to talk to him about that I wonder if I'll ever run out of things to say o him...half a year on Sunday and I'm still telling him lots and lots everyday.

I think you should either a) have a heart to heart talk to him about his issues or b) break it off. If nothing changes, I see that you two will have a very rough relationship...possibly not lasting for very long.

he just broke up with me again becuase a trust issue its like he wants me to give up everything for him and im not ready just to give myself to someone but im pretty sure its over for good because im getting sick of it

and like i wanted to open up to him and taslk to him bout stuff but i thought he would make a big deal since he makes a big deal bout little things.. like usually i can talk forever on the phone with people but he was different so i did notice something wrong there

ohh about online his computer broke so that why we used to always use the phone


but i decided its over for good

and thank you