I grieve. Options

[HakunaMatata]

My mother passed away a little over two weeks ago, and this has been on my mind.

So my mother was sick. Really, really, really sick. In bed suffering for months. When she passed away, it wasn't at all surprised. According to a therapist, we as humans begin grieving when someone gets terminally ill; like the brain automatically prepares itself. And you know, I think that's true. I was ready as possibly could be, which is probably why, even the day after, I was still going to school, posting on cB, etc.

Since then, I've been A-OK. My overall happiness has decreased, sure, but it's not like I'm hysterically grieving every day. But the pain comes in waves; I'm fine for a while, then out of nowhere I'm breaking down. Then I'm okay again.

So the point is about truly grieving. Have you experienced true grief? What did you do while grieving? How did you deal with it?

P.S. I mean this in the most sensitive manner: Please don't post in here with "I'm so sorry." because honestly, people who grieve (well at least this is how I feel) already know your sorry, and we're truly appreciative of your caring, but let's keep the discussion to grieving, hm?

[Jinny]

well, i grieved when my grandfather died from lung cancer. when i was young, i couldn't meet him a lot since i lived in the USA and he lived all the way in korea. i didn't even know much about him; i think i met him only like 2 times because we lived so far apart from each other. i didn't even know what his favorite foods were. (btw, i only met him from when i was like 4 and 6 years old, so i forgot what happened when i visited korea/him/my family.) well, one day we got a phone call that my grandpa had died. my family decided we would go to korea for a week or so to attend his funeral and see him for one last time. well, we were getting tickets [i think online] when my dad found out that my passport was expired [if that's possible; i don't remember] so i wasn't allowed to go to korea - which meant i couldn't see my grandfather for one last time. my family had to drop me off at a very close friend of ours (their dad was friends with my dad in college and school and work). i stayed at their house for one week while the rest of my family went to Korea. i couldn't even say goodbye to my grandpa.