I grieve. Options

[HakunaMatata]

My mother passed away a little over two weeks ago, and this has been on my mind.

So my mother was sick. Really, really, really sick. In bed suffering for months. When she passed away, it wasn't at all surprised. According to a therapist, we as humans begin grieving when someone gets terminally ill; like the brain automatically prepares itself. And you know, I think that's true. I was ready as possibly could be, which is probably why, even the day after, I was still going to school, posting on cB, etc.

Since then, I've been A-OK. My overall happiness has decreased, sure, but it's not like I'm hysterically grieving every day. But the pain comes in waves; I'm fine for a while, then out of nowhere I'm breaking down. Then I'm okay again.

So the point is about truly grieving. Have you experienced true grief? What did you do while grieving? How did you deal with it?

P.S. I mean this in the most sensitive manner: Please don't post in here with "I'm so sorry." because honestly, people who grieve (well at least this is how I feel) already know your sorry, and we're truly appreciative of your caring, but let's keep the discussion to grieving, hm?

[*I Viddy Horrorshow*]

I felt like that when my Grandma died a little while back. She had been sick for years, and it was almost a release rather than a weight of grief, if that makes sense.

I think once you start to grieve, you start to move on, because you can let out what, in normal circumstances, you would keep inside... It's why grieving is seen as such a healthy thing, I suppose.