Girlfriend Problems Options

[henry795uk]

Well me and my g/f have been having some problems latley. I worry to much about what she is up to and therfore i ask questions about everything. I also get incredibly jelous with her talkin to other blokes. I am like this because she is always flirting and telling me about this other guy she says is Her "best mate" also she sometimes has off days with me and that is why i ask questions.

She has recently told me that i drive her insane with asking questions and always worrying and being paranoid. now i dnt know whether she is right? or that i am right and she should change so that i dnt worry. i need help with this and help with the whole asking questions problem.

oh and another thing my g/f smokes and i hate smoking, she has told me she will never quit. and i dnt know what to do about that either because i really wish she would quit.

really need help on this, please help! cheers x

[alysaphobia]

well... you have to make a decision. can you trust your girlfriend? or are you just being irrational with your fears? you might want to have a talk with her about this to confirm that she isn't fooling around with anybody behind your back- and then stop with the questions. she might feel you're overly controlling and paranoid and it might end up destroying your relationship with her.

about the smoking... that's a tough one. you can try to reach a compromise... assuming you guys don't live together, you could ask her to try not to smoke when she's around you. or if she WANTS to quit but just doesn't know how, you can try to help her kick the habit all together.