Will he commit?, Looking for advice/thoughts... Options

[flowergirl]

Just popped in to see if any of you had any suggestions or experience. I'll try to help any of you when I come back.

I have had a long term boyfried going back along way. We have broken up before and had other girl/boyfriends, but we always got back together in the end. He has always been the one I love. He is the one I want to be with. I may as well get to the main point.

We had some relationship problems a few months ago and I had sex with someone else. Someone I did not really even like. Not only did I become pregnant, but it became known that we had had sex and that my baby is his. I am back with the love of my life again, we are seeing each other very much the way we used to, doing things like snuggle together while watching a dvd, but now I really have to think about the future of me and my child and where this would go. I am not really sure what my love wants. Perhaps he is confused himself. Can I get him to commit to me? I need to consider that I am not just 'me' any more but me and my child. If he had a baby I would be willing to adopt it if we could get together. How can I put the question to him directly?? How do guys in general feel about a baby they know isn't their's?

I don't think the biological father would be interested in seeing our baby, but I feel he could be a nasty complication I know I don't want to be with him, he is mean, irresponsible and really promiscuous.

[flowergirl]

Just checked in again

Thank you for thinking of me degradanca, I hope you never ever find yourself in this kind of awkward situation

I definitely want to keep my baby, and definitely want the biological father out of our lives and to stay with my other half, but this requires total commitment from him, and that's the problem, he's fence sitting

Oh and remember that member who had a post deleted? Looks like someone hasn't learned their lesson, I'm going to have to monitor their behaviour from now on