Will he commit?, Looking for advice/thoughts... Options

[flowergirl]

Just popped in to see if any of you had any suggestions or experience. I'll try to help any of you when I come back.

I have had a long term boyfried going back along way. We have broken up before and had other girl/boyfriends, but we always got back together in the end. He has always been the one I love. He is the one I want to be with. I may as well get to the main point.

We had some relationship problems a few months ago and I had sex with someone else. Someone I did not really even like. Not only did I become pregnant, but it became known that we had had sex and that my baby is his. I am back with the love of my life again, we are seeing each other very much the way we used to, doing things like snuggle together while watching a dvd, but now I really have to think about the future of me and my child and where this would go. I am not really sure what my love wants. Perhaps he is confused himself. Can I get him to commit to me? I need to consider that I am not just 'me' any more but me and my child. If he had a baby I would be willing to adopt it if we could get together. How can I put the question to him directly?? How do guys in general feel about a baby they know isn't their's?

I don't think the biological father would be interested in seeing our baby, but I feel he could be a nasty complication I know I don't want to be with him, he is mean, irresponsible and really promiscuous.

[*mipadi*]

Hey, good luck getting this question answered by a site full of members who are mostly 18 and under.