A cinderella story that was never there., should I brake up with her now Options

[gr00vyswordsman]

Ive been thinking about this for awhile, and really appreciate your alls thoughts. If your in a relationship, or were in one, What would you want to happen? I thank you all cb who are reading! I do have some feelings for her still, though in the end we don't really work together ( some differences in personality and hobbies that just dont fit and will never....fit)

Let's say you were in a relationship and your boyfriend had to move to a new state for some months. Believing your boyfriend still loves and wants to continue the relationship, you bought flight tickets to see/spend time your man for 3 days, and the last time you saw each other was 3 months ago.. Though in reality, he would have the relationship aspect not coninue.

Though he still would like to be friends with her, she may be hurt too much and not wanna accept his friendship. Would you rather have the relationship aspect stop before or soon after the visit? ( keep in mind already that she already bought flight tickets).

[*Uronacid*]

What are her intentions?

Is she comming up to visit because she has feelings for you, or is she comming up to visit you because you're her friend?

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If she's comming up to visit because she has feelings for you: If you're just going to break-up with her then I think you should say something to her. It unfair to her if you don't tell her where you're at in the relationship. Don't let her build up her hopes and dreams any longer. The longer you wait, the more feelings she will have built up, and the more painful the break-up with be.

At this very moment, not telling her what you're thinking is like not telling a constuction crew you're going to demolish the building they're building while they are building it. Ethier way it will be upseting, but if you tell her in advance at least she will be prepared for it.

You have to respect her feelings and love her by telling her. Yes, there are times when loving someone means breakign their heart. Also, I wouldn't worry about the cost of the plane ticket. Althgouh it is unfortunate that she may not be able to get a refund. "Not having your heart torn out" is worth a lot more than a plane ticket. Maybe you could offer to pay for half the ticket as compensation for not telling her sooner.

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If she's just comming up to visit you because she's your friend: If she's looking for a vacation then I wouldn't worry to much. It doesn't sound like this is the case though.