Sisters' Boyfriend/Fiance, Ugh! Options

[princess*missy]

Hey Everybody..

My sisters' boyfriend/fiance is really starting to bug me. He already knows I don't exactly "approve" of him marrying my sister. He's a sweet guy and he comes from a great family, he's just very overprotective, and wants my sister around him 24/7 and doesn't want her hanging out with anyone else... no other guy friends, no girl friends, he even kinda gets mad when she hangs with me... He also wants to know where she is at every single second of the day. It really bugs me... Well anyways, that's just what type of guy he is... Here's my reason for posting.

Everytime my sister, her b/f, and me hang out together, he's always asking questions about MY personal life. Like how many guys I've had sex with, or if I'm a virgin, and when i'm at school, he spies on me and tells my sister what I'm doing. Like one day, I gave this guy a hug (he was black and I'm white) and she told me that her b/f told her that I needed to stay away from him.. My sisters' b/f is racist.I'm not racist, nor is my sister. It's driving me insane, I can't date anyone without matthew getting in the middle of it somehow. My sister has literally had to get onto him for getting into my business and that still doesn't seem to help.. What should I do?

[*Uronacid*]

Hey Everybody..

My sisters' boyfriend/fiance is really starting to bug me. He already knows I don't exactly "approve" of him marrying my sister. He's a sweet guy and he comes from a great family, he's just very overprotective, and wants my sister around him 24/7 and doesn't want her hanging out with anyone else... no other guy friends, no girl friends, he even kinda gets mad when she hangs with me... He also wants to know where she is at every single second of the day. It really bugs me... Well anyways, that's just what type of guy he is... Here's my reason for posting.

Everytime my sister, her b/f, and me hang out together, he's always asking questions about MY personal life. Like how many guys I've had sex with, or if I'm a virgin, and when i'm at school, he spies on me and tells my sister what I'm doing. Like one day, I gave this guy a hug (he was black and I'm white) and she told me that her b/f told her that I needed to stay away from him.. My sisters' b/f is racist.I'm not racist, nor is my sister. It's driving me insane, I can't date anyone without matthew getting in the middle of it somehow. My sister has literally had to get onto him for getting into my business and that still doesn't seem to help.. What should I do?

I don't know what to tell you. Your sisters relationship is her buisness. She has to realize that it's annoying on her own, and it has to become annoying enough to her for her to want to oppose it. You can share your thoughts with her, but that's about it. Everything else is beyond your control.

As far as your relationship with your sisters boyfriend goes. You need to clearly tell him that you don't want him invading your personal life and that you feel as if he is invading your personal life when he does certain things. Be firm, but don't be offensive.

Do you feel like he might be trying to control you?