A cinderella story that was never there., should I brake up with her now Options

[gr00vyswordsman]

Ive been thinking about this for awhile, and really appreciate your alls thoughts. If your in a relationship, or were in one, What would you want to happen? I thank you all cb who are reading! I do have some feelings for her still, though in the end we don't really work together ( some differences in personality and hobbies that just dont fit and will never....fit)

Let's say you were in a relationship and your boyfriend had to move to a new state for some months. Believing your boyfriend still loves and wants to continue the relationship, you bought flight tickets to see/spend time your man for 3 days, and the last time you saw each other was 3 months ago.. Though in reality, he would have the relationship aspect not coninue.

Though he still would like to be friends with her, she may be hurt too much and not wanna accept his friendship. Would you rather have the relationship aspect stop before or soon after the visit? ( keep in mind already that she already bought flight tickets).

[alysaphobia]

definitely tell her before.
she'll be hurt and disappointed enough as it is. if you let her come visit you, it'll probably be really awkward... since you might end up acting like everything's normal, and that you're not ending the relationship in a few days...

i've had an experience with a long distance relationship where my bf/i were visiting each other... my bf invited me to spend some time with him and we had a really great day together, watching movies and sharing memories. the very next day, he broke up with me. it hurt so much that he was kissing me, hugging me and joking around so recently before he ended the relationship... please don't put your gf through this. going from an almost euphoric state of happiness to crazy depression in less than 1 day is catastrophic.