How many of you have I offended?, :p Options

[*Uronacid*]

Well, I know I offend many people on cB. You might think I'm ignorant when I ask this question, but "Why are you so offended by what I say?" I guess I just don't unerstand, and instead of you giving me attitude I would like to make things right. I don't care what it takes. If you want to cuss me out and call me names then please, if that's what you need to do, do it. If that's what it takes for you to feel like you have avenged my "attitude" towards you, then so be it. I would to first understand you, and then I would like you to understand me. I'm sick of the lack of communication.

I personally believe that the main reason many of you hate me is due to a lack of communication on both my part those of you who don't not like me. I would like to make things better, and if any of you have a problem with me or my ideas I would like you to step forward instead of harboring bitterness towards me andd the people I associate with.

So, in order to take the first step in resolving this obvious conflict I would like to take the time to understand you're piont of view. I would like to ask.

Why do you dislike me?

Please do not post if you aren't willing to give me the same respect that I am willing to give you. I will listen to you and try and understand you, but before you post you must realize that I WILL REPLY. In the same way that I am taking my time to listen to your reply (whoever you may be) I expect you to respect me and listen to mine.

[*Uronacid*]

Because I can see when things just aren't going to work out. I see things my way, you see things your way. You're not willing to change, I'm not willing to change. All your PMs/IMs have been backed by trying to change me--which is just not going to happen. And if you wanted to, you could atleast try to be sincere about it. Funny that you would accuse me of something you're actually doing right now. You're playing an Angel on cB talking about how you sincerely want to work things out, but in IMs/PMs you are aggressive and insulting. I've been straight up from day 1 saying we should just not talk to each other, and I haven't changed my view on that since then. Once again your aggressive personality came out.

You say you didn't say anything wrong, yet you felt the need to change what you said in your original post. Does that mean you're not comfortable with your own opinions, or how people are going to take it? A monkey would know that people weren't going to reply to that thread you made offering to bake you cookies or something, so I don't see why you were so shocked by my reaction.

Yet instead of looking at your own fault in the "tift" you focused on my so-called faults. Since then you have repeatedly made innuendos if not flat out insults to me concerning the matter, even when I continuously said I wanted to drop it and asked that you would drop it. If you sincerely wanted to make things better, you wouldn't turn to harrassment to get your way. Plus, every time it seems like we might've taken one step in the right direction...you confirm the hopelessness of the situation by claiming you don't care and how everything to you is one big pyschology experiment. Why even waste my time? Or yours? This is why I said, I saw things weren't going to work out.
I still don't see why this thread was re-opened. It's a thread where Josh can absorb attention from other members. I don't see the point in having a thread where one member talks with another member about a problem. Isn't that what PMs are for? The majority of people have posted in here that you never offended/angered them, so what purpose does this really serve?

Alright Suzzette, I could have been more friendly in my PMs, Posts, and on AIM, and I apologize. Have I been that way sense last week? No, I haven't... I realized that I was wrong when I was being a jerk, but I disargee with the part about "not talking".

I don't want to have bad blood with you or any of the members on cB. That's why I want to talk about it. This is why I want to resolve things. I'm sick and tired of entering these forums on a daily basis, and remembering what it was like when I did get along with the community. It f**king sucks....

I understand why it was offensive and I apologize for offending you. In fact, I will admit to writing the post just so that you would get offended. In fact, I will admit to targeting you as an individual. I never expected you to become as offended as you were. I thought it would bother you, but I honestly didn't realize you would become that upset.

When I realized how offended you were. I changed the post to escape the risk of others from being offended. So many people were calling me a racist in the cB chat that I began to question myself. I can understand why you think that I changed it, but it really was not for that reason. I even wrote that essay on my own time to prove it to myself, and I gave it to the community because I wanted them to realize that I actually cared.

I admit, I didn't look at my own faults. I focused on yours, and I'm sorry. I was wrong for saying and doing a lot of the things I did. I know that at times I do play games with the members of the community, but the part of me that actually cares for the website keeps me from having a clear head and I always screw up.

Suzzette, I'll be honest. I made this thread for people who I really offended. People like you. I'm sorry for offending you, and I guess I just don't know how to make you realize that I'm serious. I really am sorry for offending you. I had never realized you would get that upset over what I had written. I guess I would still like you to read my essay just to see what I have learned... it's not offensive. I promise.

You've never offended me, but I only remember you as the way you said it, an "a-hole." I'd never really seen you around before, and because I usually don't go into debate, I didn't see the drama going on between you/sammi/nate, nor did I see the application drama between you/kathleen/james/anna either. And back then, I really did see you as being an ass towards everyone. This also might be my own bias since James and I are friends. But after I returned to cB after a long hiatus, I feel that you're a lot nicer, and especially helpful in the relationships forum.

Well thank you for your honesty. I respect that you actually admitted to having a possible bias due to your friendship with James. It really shows some true character. I don't think many people would admit that even if it was the truth.

*respect*

I've never been offended by you, but like others have said, some of what you said could be worded in a nicer way. I like your brutal honesty, and how you stand up for what you believe in, and the helpful advice you give to others, however, sometimes I'm irked by the way you word your statements. I know you mean well, but sometimes, you come off as a bit aggressive, and wanting things to go your way.

I like reading your posts. They are insightful...which can be something of a rare occurrence here. It is apparent that you have many many ideas flowing around your head, and you'd like to share them with others. I think what other people doesn't quite like is how you word your statements. Like I said, it CAN sound aggressive, and perhaps a little bit...egotistical? But you mean well. The problem isn't really you offending people, it's you coming off as something different than what you intended it to sound.

I'm getting the idea that this is the real problem... thanks for your input... >.>

well if its any solice, I always thought you were one of the cooler people on cb. everyone thats replying here (except for me :D) has character flaws. but you can have character flaws and be a tight person. you dont have to try and eradicate each little "flaw" you think you have ya'know? its what makes you......you. and people that do try to eradicate each one ends up boring as hell. the only thing i could say to you is , you care way too much about what these people think about you, just say what you want to say. if they dont like it then f**k em'. dont ask them if you're okay, as if they are better educated in what it means to be a good person. cause they aint, i can tolerate you far more than i can tolerate some of the other people here that have never even broken a rule.

Wow... I guess I just never expect you to say something like that... XD

You're always joking around, and it's nice to see your true thoughts on an issue. Thanks so much.. xD

I agree with you. I'm not going to change. I'm still going to be honest and straight forward with people. I'm just going to try and be less offensive. I'm not going to change my personaliy, but I am willing to admit when I have done wrong. One thing I have always said:

"When someone says that everyone seems to have a problem with them. It's usually not "everyone" who has the problem."

There are exceptions (example: When someone is surrounded by a group of similar people with conflicting personality types.), but it's never bad to better yourself or learn from others instead of being ignorant and selfish.

I've been irritated, but I don't think I've been offended. Maybe one or two of your posts just seemed rather... obnoxious at some point in time, but seeing that I don't remember when, I'm putting it behind me.

And hopefully you are too..?

You have irritated me once or twice too, but you never seem to hold a personal grudge. I recognize that ability, and I respect you for it (because many don't). You have apposed me once or twice, but I saw nothing wrong with what you said. Most of the time you just have a different point of view that I disagree with, but these points of view are matters of opinion. You every right to have them, and I don't hate or dislike you for it. I would say this:

At times your opinions and views bother me because I disagree with thim, but they are not a reason for me to hate on you.