Uh-oh. He went too far. Options

[ksoyeah]

Not sure if this goes in Relationships or not...so here goes nothing...

So, I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a month, and a few days ago, he went a little too far. We were normaly kissing, which lead to making out, which then lead to him just sticking his tongue in my mouth, when touching my butt.

I'm not sure what's going on. I told him I didn't appreciate it. I'm not that kind of girl to do anything like that. I didn't talk to him yesterday, but he had two of his best friends come talk to me because he didn't know what to do. His friends told him to apologize, but he hasn't.

I'm extremely upset with him, and I'm contemplating breaking up with him, since he didn't respect my wishes.

Do you girls [[or guys, haha.]] have any advice?

[*Uronacid*]

Not sure if this goes in Relationships or not...so here goes nothing...

Yeah, this goes in the relationships section.. :]

So, I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a month, and a few days ago, he went a little too far. We were normaly kissing, which lead to making out, which then lead to him just sticking his tongue in my mouth, when touching my butt.

This isn't that bad. If you're going to start "normally kissing", then you should expect it to lead to more.

I'm not sure what's going on. I told him I didn't appreciate it. I'm not that kind of girl to do anything like that. I didn't talk to him yesterday, but he had two of his best friends come talk to me because he didn't know what to do. His friends told him to apologize, but he hasn't.

You could have stopped him, so don't act like it's all his fault. You did do something like that. You allowed him to do it, you allowing him to do it is just as bad as him doing it. If you didn't appreciate it you should have to him to stop shoving his tongue down your throat before he touched your butt.

I'm extremely upset with him, and I'm contemplating breaking up with him, since he didn't respect my wishes.

You sound extremely selfish when you say this. As if it's all his fault. I get the impression that you don't want to admit you could be wrong, and you're placing all the blame on him because you feel guilty for taking part in something that you have been raised to believe is "morally wrong". Have you ever heard of the saying, "it takes two to tango." He couldn't have done those things without you. Yeah, from the sounds of it. He was just doing what he thought was "conservative", and your definition of "conservative" was totally different. I think that you need to more clearly define your boundaries before you "discipline" him.

Do you girls [[or guys, haha.]] have any advice?

My advice:

It's not all his fault so quit placing all the blame on him. If you aren't ready to get physical then You shouldn't get physical at all. If you're making out with someone they are going to touch your body, and if you don't want anything like that to happen then you need to avoid a situation where that can happen. Don't start kissing up on each other while you're alone. That's the bottom line. You need to apologize to your boyfriend, and clearly state your boundaries.

I think it's odd how you laugh at the thought of guys giving you advice... it's as if you think guys are inferior. I think this mind-set well cause a lot of relationship problems in the future. You should remove this idea from your brain. Guys are equal to girls, and visa versa. If you don't think of your partner as an equal you probably won't have a very healthy relationship. (unless you're a lesbian)

Relationships don't equal to sex, but when you think about it, no relationships is ever without some sex. He's a guy, and older than you, so he's bound to get physical with you at one point or another. It's natural.

This is true, it's human instinct to enjoy sexual contact. (doesn't necessarily mean your having sex.)