How many of you have I offended?, :p Options

[*Uronacid*]

Well, I know I offend many people on cB. You might think I'm ignorant when I ask this question, but "Why are you so offended by what I say?" I guess I just don't unerstand, and instead of you giving me attitude I would like to make things right. I don't care what it takes. If you want to cuss me out and call me names then please, if that's what you need to do, do it. If that's what it takes for you to feel like you have avenged my "attitude" towards you, then so be it. I would to first understand you, and then I would like you to understand me. I'm sick of the lack of communication.

I personally believe that the main reason many of you hate me is due to a lack of communication on both my part those of you who don't not like me. I would like to make things better, and if any of you have a problem with me or my ideas I would like you to step forward instead of harboring bitterness towards me andd the people I associate with.

So, in order to take the first step in resolving this obvious conflict I would like to take the time to understand you're piont of view. I would like to ask.

Why do you dislike me?

Please do not post if you aren't willing to give me the same respect that I am willing to give you. I will listen to you and try and understand you, but before you post you must realize that I WILL REPLY. In the same way that I am taking my time to listen to your reply (whoever you may be) I expect you to respect me and listen to mine.

[*Duchess of Dork*]

I only have a couple of minutes before I have to run out, but I'll give you a bit of a glimpse as to what's inside my head when I read this -

As far as being offended? Never. Honestly not once.

However, irritated? You betcha. It's not what you say necessarily, it's your unrelenting narcissism.

I think you're a good kid. I really do and this is not the first time I've said this. I also think that you are capable of doing quite a bit, both creatively and personally.

You just need to think outside of, well, you everyonce in a while.

I do realize that you mention Holly every once in a while, but it's always to show something about yourself when you do. It's never truly about her.

I hope you're not offended by this, as you did ask for truth and I assumed that being candid was cool.

&EDIT: I see that you have edited your post during the time I was responding. I responded here because I believed that is what you wanted. I am not personally looking for feedback, however. If I was, I would have made a thread about myself. ---Just for the record. (I'm also not looking for banter. I'm here to drop off my opinion. I cannot guarantee I'll return to this thread. I don't mean that in a bad way, I promise).

[*Uronacid*]

I only have a couple of minutes before I have to run out, but I'll give you a bit of a glimpse as to what's inside my head when I read this -

As far as being offended? Never. Honestly not once.

However, irritated? You betcha. It's not what you say necessarily, it's your unrelenting narcissism.

I think you're a good kid. I really do and this is not the first time I've said this. I also think that you are capable of doing quite a bit, both creatively and personally.

You just need to think outside of, well, you everyonce in a while.

I do realize that you mention Holly every once in a while, but it's always to show something about yourself when you do. It's never truly about her.

I hope you're not offended by this, as you did ask for truth and I assumed that being candid was cool.

I think you have me all wrong, but I can see how I come off as a "self-lover".... It maybe because I actually hate myself, and I'm saying things to build myself up. I do use this site as a playground at times.

The thing you said about Holly really bothered me. I'm not sure what what you were trying to say by it. I think you were trying to say that "the only time I mention Holly is when I try to build myself up." Well, this is deffinilty not the case. I don't know if you read the relationships section, but I mention her all the time in a possitive way. I'm really proud of her. Just recently in a topic about "How people on cB have effected your life" I posted a paragraph boasting all the things she has done for me. Without Holly I wouldn't be who I am today. I appriciate her more than you could ever imagine.

I guess if you think I'm as selfish as percieve me to be. I could understand. I would like You to expand upon that part so I could understand why you feel that way. Maybe give me a few examples of some posts that I made so I can understand what you're talking about. I really don't want to go into to much detail because I don't understand you entirely.

[*Duchess of Dork*]

I think you have me all wrong, but I can see how I come off as a "self-lover".... It maybe because I actually hate myself, and I'm saying things to build myself up. I do use this site as a playground at times.

The thing you said about Holly really bothered me. I'm not sure what what you were trying to say by it. I think you were trying to say that "the only time I mention Holly is when I try to build myself up." Well, this is deffinilty not the case. I don't know if you read the relationships section, but I mention her all the time in a possitive way. I'm really proud of her. Just recently in a topic about "How people on cB have effected your life" I posted a paragraph boasting all the things she has done for me. Without Holly I wouldn't be who I am today. I appriciate her more than you could ever imagine.

I guess if you think I'm as selfish as percieve me to be. I could understand. I would like You to expand upon that part so I could understand why you feel that way. Maybe give me a few examples of some posts that I made so I can understand what you're talking about. I really don't want to go into to much detail because I don't understand you entirely.

Since you PM'd me, I will oblige. :)

These are perceptions I have of you, at this time. Take from them what you will. I do not really sugarcoat things so my reactions can seem a bit on the salt and vinegar side. It's a well recognized flaw/something to approve upon. (Although, that's subjective as well).

I think you might have misunderstood though. I'm not saying that in your personal life you only have feelings for yourself. I'm quite aware of your feelings for your girlfriend. However, the overall vibe (that word is so irksome, but I can't think of a better one at the moment) from your posts, even when you post about another has, in one or another a reflection upon yourself. You may not even realize you're doing that. Like I said before, perception. That's all it is. It's not at all necessarily a reflection of your feelings in real life. I was referring to you, the poster, not you the boyfriend (if that makes any sense at all).

I realize this would be better if I came up with a bunch of posts to cite here, but I honestly just don't have the time. I'm also going to use that dang "P" word again, perception.

I wouldn't take what I said about Holly too much to heart. I think it merits repeating to say that I wasn't commenting about or making assumptions of your feelings. I was giving you an idea of a perception (there's that silly word again) I've had when reading through posts you've made the past few months or so.

Hopefully that at least somewhat clears it up.