How many of you have I offended?, :p Options

[*Uronacid*]

Well, I know I offend many people on cB. You might think I'm ignorant when I ask this question, but "Why are you so offended by what I say?" I guess I just don't unerstand, and instead of you giving me attitude I would like to make things right. I don't care what it takes. If you want to cuss me out and call me names then please, if that's what you need to do, do it. If that's what it takes for you to feel like you have avenged my "attitude" towards you, then so be it. I would to first understand you, and then I would like you to understand me. I'm sick of the lack of communication.

I personally believe that the main reason many of you hate me is due to a lack of communication on both my part those of you who don't not like me. I would like to make things better, and if any of you have a problem with me or my ideas I would like you to step forward instead of harboring bitterness towards me andd the people I associate with.

So, in order to take the first step in resolving this obvious conflict I would like to take the time to understand you're piont of view. I would like to ask.

Why do you dislike me?

Please do not post if you aren't willing to give me the same respect that I am willing to give you. I will listen to you and try and understand you, but before you post you must realize that I WILL REPLY. In the same way that I am taking my time to listen to your reply (whoever you may be) I expect you to respect me and listen to mine.

[KissMe2408]

Josh, I don't think you ever have really offended me.
And honestly, yeah, communicating with you helps,
a lot of times it's misunderstanding around here. . .

Again, I saw a lot in you before, back like a year ago or whatever.
A great guy, a lot to offer really.

And yes, i'm glad you wrote this thread, hopefully a few things can get
straightened out. A lot of it may be just picking and choosing your battles.
There are a lot of strong and opinionated people on here. A lot of them with very different viewpoints. It's inevitable that people will disagree with each other. But it's important to pick and choose your fights. Being the bigger man at times and letting things go, turning away. Not being a pushover, but just being mature about a disagreement. Realizing that that person has a totally different opinion and probably never will change. And again, some people just don't get along with other people. Even if they agree on the same issues, they just don't click.

So I encourage you, again, to pick your battles in this thread. As i'm sure some people will come out with fists swinging. Some people will not give you the respect deserved or needed. You need to know that, understand it, and kinda take it. Give them back as much respect as you can muster, and move on. It's hard, trust me. But iti's gotta be done sometimes.

[*Uronacid*]

Josh, I don't think you ever have really offended me.
And honestly, yeah, communicating with you helps,
a lot of times it's misunderstanding around here. . .

Again, I saw a lot in you before, back like a year ago or whatever.
A great guy, a lot to offer really.

And yes, i'm glad you wrote this thread, hopefully a few things can get
straightened out. A lot of it may be just picking and choosing your battles.
There are a lot of strong and opinionated people on here. A lot of them with very different viewpoints. It's inevitable that people will disagree with each other. But it's important to pick and choose your fights. Being the bigger man at times and letting things go, turning away. Not being a pushover, but just being mature about a disagreement. Realizing that that person has a totally different opinion and probably never will change. And again, some people just don't get along with other people. Even if they agree on the same issues, they just don't click.

So I encourage you, again, to pick your battles in this thread. As i'm sure some people will come out with fists swinging. Some people will not give you the respect deserved or needed. You need to know that, understand it, and kinda take it. Give them back as much respect as you can muster, and move on. It's hard, trust me. But iti's gotta be done sometimes.

Alright, I agree with you.

A year ago, I was extremely nice to everyone. I guess I just had no reason to be mean. So, I never was mean. No one was a jerk to me, and so I was never a jerk to anyone else. The first time I was provoked was in the debate section. Being a christian, I get made fun of a lot in the debate section. Athiests tend to have a big problem with "faith". I can understand why, but for them to make fun of me for my beliefs was disrespectful. Statues/Shadows and Nate would consistantly call me an idiot for believing many of the things I believed in, and most of it was purely because they didnt' understand due to their own beliefs. I made up with Nate, but me and statues/shadows we didn't. I just let it go...

Durring the first hiring season I ever had a chance to apply for a position in I was aske to give my honest opinion on all the candidates applications. So, I did. I wasn't looking to start a fight (although many of you may have thought I was.). I just gave my honest opinion (on of the biggest mistakes I have ever made on this site). I tore Kathleen's application apart like a weather balloon in a hurricane. I didn't even know her, but based upon the appilcation that she presented I made my opinions very clear. It was a huge mistake. James, Anna, and several others (who were obviously freinds with Kathleen) decided to tear me apart the best they possibly could. I didn't even know these people, and they were gang banging me. I was doing what staff asked me to do, and these people tore me apart for it! So, I defended myself, and in the process recieved a verbal warning. I was humiliated. They torn at me for everything... from calling me names to consistant critque of grammar/spelling... anything and everything they couldd think of.... It was that day that my hatred for cB grew... it was that day that I have never let go. I am still bitter about that hiring season. The day that I felt I was rediculed for being honest.

It was from that piont on that I became an "a-hole". If you notice, I only pick fights with specific people, and those people are the people that tore me apart on that day. Unfortunatly, I chose to be the scapegoat by becoming enemies with some of the most popular people cB has ever known. So, me retailiating not only means that they hate me, but their freinds hate me, and their friends friends also hate me.

I felt as if the community was full of lemmings (a.k.a. people who cannot think for themselves.. people who will follow the ideas of in individual just because they are friends with that indiviual.). It was then that I was detirmined to give cB a piece of my mind. I wanted to rub against the grain. I know you're right when you say that I should choose my fights, but what about the fights that will ever been fought because people are to afraid to oppose certain individuals? ugh.... I mean... I hear what you're saying some people just arn't worth the fight, but if you are saying being a "cool" person on cB means "agreeing with certain people just because you know that they will become bitter when you disagree with them" I just can't do it.... I would feel like I'm letting them walk all over me.

Of course their are two sides to every story... this is just how I felt... I will add more later.