So I dont understand the way my mind functions. Options

[IamRad]

I know this post is really long, but i really need an answer.

I guess i'll just start from the very beginning so the story makes sense?

So about two months ago, I started talking to this guy alot more, and eventually it came to the point where i was starting to like him, and i started noticing that he may like me also...So on New Years i just decided to start a new year and tell him how i felt. Turns out that he did feel the same way. From that day carrying on for like two weeks, i couldnt eat sleep, or concentrate, just because i was super happy. I mean, ive never had someone really like me before, so it was a new and exciting thing. everything was going amazing, we stayed up all night on the phone getting to know eachother really really well. Then about a month later he decided to ask me to be his girlriend, and of course i said yes. Well we are currently together...

Now here comes the part that i dont understand.

Almost every weekend, i get these weird thoughts in my head. Like thoughts on how this relationship may not work, and what might happen if we break up, and things like that. I mean i also think of things that might stop me from liking him... (Now i say this happens on weekends mostly because i never see him on the weekend, i think?)
So i talked to my good friend about how ive been having these thoughts, she said it might be because im a girl and girls always overthink things, which i guess is true...but the thing is WHY do i think all of this, it doesnt seem normal to me...
The reason im posting this is because, this whole week ive been thinking about what i usually think about on the weekends...weird right? i thought it was only a weekend thing. I feel like im pushing the best thing in my life away..

The question i have for someone who is actually willing to read this:

Can someone try to explain to me why i feel this way? Like have you ever related to this kind of "problem?" Why do i make things so complicated when things are so perfect and simple?

It makes me so upset that i actually think these things, because it makes me feel so dishonest with him...but im not sure if its something i need to talk to him about, since its my mind playing tricks on me? i dont know..

[pinacoolada]

I know this post is really long, but i really need an answer.

I guess i'll just start from the very beginning so the story makes sense?

So about two months ago, I started talking to this guy alot more, and eventually it came to the point where i was starting to like him, and i started noticing that he may like me also...So on New Years i just decided to start a new year and tell him how i felt. Turns out that he did feel the same way. From that day carrying on for like two weeks, i couldnt eat sleep, or concentrate, just because i was super happy. I mean, ive never had someone really like me before, so it was a new and exciting thing. everything was going amazing, we stayed up all night on the phone getting to know eachother really really well. Then about a month later he decided to ask me to be his girlriend, and of course i said yes. Well we are currently together...

Now here comes the part that i dont understand.

Almost every weekend, i get these weird thoughts in my head. Like thoughts on how this relationship may not work, and what might happen if we break up, and things like that. I mean i also think of things that might stop me from liking him... (Now i say this happens on weekends mostly because i never see him on the weekend, i think?)
So i talked to my good friend about how ive been having these thoughts, she said it might be because im a girl and girls always overthink things, which i guess is true...but the thing is WHY do i think all of this, it doesnt seem normal to me...
The reason im posting this is because, this whole week ive been thinking about what i usually think about on the weekends...weird right? i thought it was only a weekend thing. I feel like im pushing the best thing in my life away..

The question i have for someone who is actually willing to read this:

Can someone try to explain to me why i feel this way? Like have you ever related to this kind of "problem?" Why do i make things so complicated when things are so perfect and simple?

It makes me so upset that i actually think these things, because it makes me feel so dishonest with him...but im not sure if its something i need to talk to him about, since its my mind playing tricks on me? i dont know..

I'm like that.
You've just gotta learn to control it, and once you do, it's all fine.
Just say to yourself over and over again "it's okay...nothing's wrong, you overanalyze". Tell yourself you shouldn't put yourself through this. After that, it usually goes away. I only have it for like 2 minutes then it goes away when I reassure myself.

Think of it this way...it's like a ghost/monster (whatever you wanna call it..your enemy etc.). Giving it significance in your life like that by worrying about it so much just gives the "ghost" more power. And why would you wanna do that?

Hmm..I don't find it necessary to talk to my boyfriend about it. He certainly knows, but it's managable enough that it's not that big of a deal to me. It's just you caring too much about what could go wrong. Is there something in the past that triggered your fear of being left in a relationship? If so, that may have contributed to it. That's pretty much the case for me. Don't worry, you'll be fine

Oh and...thinking about happy times with him usually blocks it out too. Good luck =]