Boys, I have a few questions. Options

[me1issaaaa]

Okay, guys. Let's just say you're a senior, and Prom is coming up. You ask a junior girl to go with you, and she says yes. You go and have an incredible time, and along the way, you two become a couple. You become super close, you spend a lot of time together, you grow to love each other more with everyday. Everything seems perfect, for the most part.

Flash forward about a year.

It's the girl's time to shine for her senior Prom. You two have been together for nearly a year, about 11 months. For the longest time, the two of you have been planning on going together, and then all of a sudden, two months before Prom, you decide you don't want to go. You don't want to have anything to do with Prom. Naturally, the girl is pretty upset... this is her only senior prom she is ever going to get, and you back out of it completely. After all, all the girl really wanted to do was spend Prom with the one person who means the most to her.

And, to top it off, you don't want her to dance with another guy, or you're "done for good".


Um... is the girl overreacting? Or is the guy just a COMPLETE dumbass?

[Ington]

Are we getting the full perspective here or only yours?

Quite honestly, I side with your position, the guy is overreacting and should definitely go with you. However, something feels strange about this. I'm a guy, and I have a girlfriend, who sometimes feels like I'm a completely horrible person for something without taking into account my point of view. For example, my girlfriend wanted me to join Yearbook with her instead of join a club I actually wanted to go to. I refused to go to Yearbook. She got mad. I didn't care. She was mad because she wanted to be with me there, which was nice of her, but she didn't care about my aspirations at all at that moment.

Thus, I have to request that you give us some details about why he suddenly didn't want to go. Did you pester him about it? Did you make him uncomfortable about something (ie: how he dances, how he should act and what he does wrong, etc)? I don't mean do sound like I side with him, because I don't, I just want the entire story before I assume anything.

[me1issaaaa]

Are we getting the full perspective here or only yours?

Quite honestly, I side with your position, the guy is overreacting and should definitely go with you. However, something feels strange about this. I'm a guy, and I have a girlfriend, who sometimes feels like I'm a completely horrible person for something without taking into account my point of view. For example, my girlfriend wanted me to join Yearbook with her instead of join a club I actually wanted to go to. I refused to go to Yearbook. She got mad. I didn't care. She was mad because she wanted to be with me there, which was nice of her, but she didn't care about my aspirations at all at that moment.

Thus, I have to request that you give us some details about why he suddenly didn't want to go. Did you pester him about it? Did you make him uncomfortable about something (ie: how he dances, how he should act and what he does wrong, etc)? I don't mean do sound like I side with him, because I don't, I just want the entire story before I assume anything.

That's just it, I don't know why he suddenly decided he didn't want to go. I don't know his perspective, because he won't tell me. No clue. It's driving me up a wall. For months and months we'd talked about how much fun it would be. And we've always complimented each other on everything when it comes to dancing... we do it damn well, I must say. So I don't get why it's such a big deal and why he thinks it's such a commitment, which it really isn't. One night, 4 hours tops, and I already told him we don't have to do all of the fluff like get a limo and do dinner and everything. I could care less about all of that.

A month or two back, he told his family that we'd been bckering about it. I've always gotten along with all of his family, I love them and they seem to have liked me. Anyway, he told them that I wanted him to go to Prom with me, and they were like, "WHAT?! Why are you going to prom?! That's a little high school, isn't it?" [Umm... you were just in high school less than a year ago, idiot. It's not like you're 25 or something.] I was really shocked when he told me that they thought it was a bad idea.

It's basically a lose-lose situation for me. If he doesn't go, I'm going to have a bad time and wish he was there with me; whether I have another date or not, it won't be with the only person I wanted to spend it with. If he does a complete 180 turnabout and does go, I'll still have a bad time, because I know he doesn't want to be there. I'm starting to think it's just not worth it... we had a great time last year. I've been to Prom once, I spent it with the person I wanted to, it was incredible. I'm thinking of just leaving it on a high note and skipping this year, without all of the negatives from this year's. I'm not sure yet, I've got a lot of stuff to figure out.