Help!, I've gotten obsessed! :'( Options

[Dreamers]

Okay, there is a guy a couple years older than me, hes in 8th grade, so as you know, im young and crushes are natural for a 6th grader but...He is my brothers friend, hes real cute and funny, and he spends the night at our house often to play video games/get on computer with my bro. I usually hang out with them when he comes over. anyway, it started out as a little flicker of happiness when I saw him, but now its gotten to where I need to exchange words with him or see his face at LEAST once a day to remain in a good mood! He likes someone else, i know that much. Basically, I don't stand a chance with him, and I NEED to get over him, I just can't though! He has these eyes that laugh, so I can never stay mad at him! I need some way to get over him before I get hurt by it.



I'm like a little sister in his eyes, I can tell because....


*He pushed me onto the couch at aunts house, then rolled me onto the floor. When I got up, he pushed me back onto the couch. pounced on me, then got off, laughing the whole time, like I've seen my brother do to our 5 year old cousin.

*He loves to poke me!

*He gets quite annoyed when I complain about something

*Once I got hurt at school, i loked at the scratch said 'Oh, apparently it left a mark.' He was like 'Oh, lemme see!' then acted like he was gunna punch me where I got hurt.

*He loves to mess up my hair, escpecially if I just got out of the shower.

*sometimes he just asks to get a slap!


* I had to be sandwitched by him in Scholar Bowl when I went into sub for my friend. I said "Sorry, dude. i'm squeezing in." He smiled at said he didn't mind, at least he got to sit by someone he knew.

* he willingly sat by me with open seats. This again was probably because he doesn't know the other scolar bowl members too well.


These are all things that a guy would do to a younger sister, am I correct? We are both on Scholar Bowl, so we see each ther alot.




Anyway, I'm liking him more by the second, and as I said, I'm going to end up getting hurt by the guy who likes me as a sister, and has a crush on another girl. Help me!!!!

[shaixe]

I disagree with that. Getting obsessed over someone new to get over someone else doesn't work, because you're just setting yourself up for another heart ache. Just let things flow..and forget him. Keep yourself busy for now and take a break on boys. Concentrate on school.

Crushes are hard. Obsessions are even harder. And when you consider how much interaction you'd have with your brother's friend - it would be difficult to focus on schoolwork. Difficult to forget him when the guy is right downstairs. No matter how hard you try, all that effort in getting him out of your head is going to be erased when you accidentally run into the guy at home or school.

I would agree that choosing a new person to think about would get you into the same mess... but it won't be the same if you go into the ordeal knowing that you don't like this new guy. Knowing it's for the sake of replacement. That's why I mentioned picking a celebrity. Instead of daydreaming or writing about your brother's friend, replace his name with another's. You can doodle "I love Justin Timberlake" all over your stuff and think about a relationship with him. I mean, let's face it: who wouldn't want to be with Justin Timberlake? Lol. Or Orlando Bloom. Oh, or Heath Ledger? ;D It makes it really easy to - at least temporarily - forget the real person.

That's my take, anyway.