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[jenjjen]

okay so this guy im in one of his classes and ive kindof liked him since the beginning of the school year. he went out with one of my close friends this year and i still kindof liked him then too. they arent together anymore but i know she still likes him, and i do too... alot. except she doesnt know it. and he's one of my really really good friends like my best guy friend. we like talk about everythin together and he's really nice to me. but i dont know if i should go out with him cause my friend still likes him. i mean i even told him that i used to like him and all and he was okay with it and its never awkward around him. but what should i do? i get jealous when they talk together and stuff though (which isnt very often). and sometimes i cant help but wish they werent even friends at all or anything. it makes me so annoyed. but when they were together i was at my worst; i was still her friend and all and happy for her but part of me was very jealous and i was very unhappy. i feel really bad for thinking this way. i wanna be happy for her but i just cant.

[Aerjae]

Hmm.. You shouldn't go out with your best guy friend. Things change and suddenly, you aren't best friends but lovers. Things tend to get akward. It's also not fair to your friend. She probably feels jealous when you talk to him.

[*Uronacid*]

Hmm.. You shouldn't go out with your best guy friend. Things change and suddenly, you aren't best friends but lovers. Things tend to get akward. It's also not fair to your friend. She probably feels jealous when you talk to him.

Lovers... isn't that the point, don't you want to become lovers? Also, things are bound to get awkward at some point when you're in a relationship. I can't tell you how how many times it has been awkward in my relationship (Some of the questions she will ask me make me flip out... I love her.. :]).

So it's not fair because her friend is jealous? Alright now, I know it's not fun to be jealous, but is that really her problem? This girl has been patient enough to wait until they broke up before making a move. She was jealous the entire time that her friend was dating the guy. If her friend gets jealous then her friend needs to suck it up the same way she did.

[bat19]

So it's not fair because her friend is jealous? Alright now, I know it's not fun to be jealous, but is that really her problem? This girl has been patient enough to wait until they broke up before making a move. She was jealous the entire time that her friend was dating the guy. If her friend gets jealous then her friend needs to suck it up the same way she did.

I completely disagree with you Josh. I don't think her friend should just "suck it up." She is in a situation she created herself. If she hadn't lied and said she "used" to like him, maybe she would be somewhere instead of worrying about another friend. If she felt so strongly for this guy, she should have told her true feelings. I think that she should stay away from this guy and her friend for about two weeks. The two weeks will give her reflection time. When she sees them again, she will most likely have a different view of them. Bottom line, you're wrong Josh and you're always wrong. God Damnit!! You give the worst advice imaginable. I think she should just let her friend have this guy, she already missed her chance. It is not okay to try something cause that crosses the boundaries of friendship. Can't sleep with parents, siblings, or ex's. Belee' Dat'.

[*Uronacid*]

I completely disagree with you Josh. I don't think her friend should just "suck it up." She is in a situation she created herself. If she hadn't lied and said she "used" to like him, maybe she would be somewhere instead of worrying about another friend. If she felt so strongly for this guy, she should have told her true feelings. I think that she should stay away from this guy and her friend for about two weeks. The two weeks will give her reflection time. When she sees them again, she will most likely have a different view of them. Bottom line, you're wrong Josh and you're always wrong. God Damnit!! You give the worst advice imaginable. I think she should just let her friend have this guy, she already missed her chance. It is not okay to try something cause that crosses the boundaries of friendship. Can't sleep with parents, siblings, or ex's. Belee' Dat'.

Jeremy, she doesn't f**king have the guy... this guy is totally f**king free, they f**king broke out of the f**king relationship, and they have stopped f**king you stupid f**king c**t. So, with all due respect my friend, I'm going to steal your girlfriend now and have some personal "f**k you" time just to make you jealous. You little fag.

a.k.a.

Wow, Jeremy... what do you mean?

[bat19]

Jeremy, she doesn't f**king have the guy... this guy is totally f**king free, they f**king broke out of the f**king relationship, and they have stopped f**king you stupid f**king c**t. So, with all due respect my friend, I'm going to steal your girlfriend now and have some personal "f**k you" time just to make you jealous. You little fag.

a.k.a.

Wow, Jeremy... what do you mean?

Well Josh, what I mean is that this chick has no idea what she is talking about and Im sick of you always defending these pathetic people. Is that what they teach you at ITT Tech? Cause at Stanford, you're taught only the strongest will survive. And right now this little girl does not seem so strong complaining over her two best friend's hooking up, then breaking up, then worrying about one or the other's post relations feelings. I'm sick of it man. I disagree with you and I think they should definitely hook up, regardless of what some insignificant has to say about possible jealousy.