Strict Father vs. Teenage Rebellion?, Need to get out. Options

[lojay]

Alright. I know I am not the only one with this problem. I am aware people have bigger problems than me, however, I cannot take it anymore! My parents are driving me insane.

**If this is in the wrong section, sorry, feel free to move it. I figured it was a relationship problem between my parents and myself.

Moving on --

How is everyone else dealing with their parents that are driving them insane and setting boundaries?

I recently was sent to a doctor because I am undergoing stress/panic attacks regularly and fainting as well. And yes, I am eating well. The doctor suggested that I start journaling. I am. It relaxes me, but my parents do a hell of a job at pissing me off even when I'm relaxed.

First off, my dad is 58. I'm 17. He's an "older" father. He went through Vietnam, so he does not take shit from anyone. Recently, his old age has turned him into a grumpy a-hole. He set "rules" for me. Rules?! Are you kidding me?!

I have 2 jobs, and I go to school every day, never sick, attend SAT Prep courses every Saturday, attend ski club, and get good grades. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, and I don't give him any reason to think I'm a bad kid. What is his problem?

I guess what I really want to know is, how does everyone else deal with this crap? Does anyone else have a father who is majorly strict or went through Vietnam and what he says goes? And how do you deal with it? I'm afraid of my own father. It shouldn't be like that.

I can't even talk to my dad because even if I say one thing in defense, his answer is, "You always have an excuse." If I don't do things his way, then I'm punished. Last week I spent the whole day cleaning the house so I could get my car keys back (he took them away because my friends made noise the night before when they were over my house. wtf?) When I go out and have fun and get my parents off my mind, I come home to my dad being in a bad mood and it ruins my night. I can't even go out and have fun anymore.

Even if these are normal problems, why can't I accept them? I feel like I'm overreacting, and at the same time, I'm 100% sure I'm not. I really just want to get out of the house. I have my license and I really want to just get out, but my dad keeps setting curfews or rules for me. There's a new one every week! Help? Please?

[Kontroll]

They are your parents. They own your till your 18. Deal with it. They are there to set rules so you don't screw your life up later.

Well, you're young. You're stupid. All teenagers are stupid. That's why we're teenagers. We need parents to give us rules. I've had rules all my life. I still do and I'm of legal age now. It's apart of life. You're always gonna have rules. He obviously cares about you. Because you do so well with everything gives him more reason to be stricter. I mean think about it. You do so well at everything. Don't you just want to go to a party every once in a while? You know, you deserve it. He might be looking through that perspective. You never know. He's a military dad, so he most likely is going to be stricter. Discipline isn't a bad thing. You have to realize that now. He's just preparing you for when you're older.

I would love to see some of my friends and you people deal with life as a teenager if you lived in the 50 or around that time. I would definitely have a problem, but I'll the first to admit that. It's hard being a teenager. It's no reason to bitch. Just think, they probably had it worse than you did.

So, please. Don't say you're parents are driving you insane. You're doing it to yourself. You're probably looking at your friends and saying, 'Well, they get to do all this stuff, why can't I?' Right?

Good day.

Wait till your 18 , Move out and move on with your life. :-)

How is that going to solve anything? That's not a solution.