Trust?, I need him to trust me Options

[chaoticchrissy]

Its a long kinda story. We have been together on and off for about half a year. Hes an amazing guy. He gives me everything I need. and not just sexually. I love him, and I know I love him. He gives me that kinda high everytime I see him.. okay but anyway,, The past few months I was cheating on him. It seems weird how i was just saying I love him blah blah then I cheat on him right? I don't even have a reason for it? I guess I like change. & I lied about it the whole time even though he knew it. He knew I was lien. But I kept saying I wasn't cheating. He knew it, & I knew he knew. But I feel like I've changed now, and all those guys that I talked to before were a waist of my time... But anyway we broke up & He took me back. I need to do somethin' to get his trust back fully. I cut off a bunch of dudes I had on the "side" kinda thing and he said that was helping... I feel like I'm out of ideas, Ive never had to "gain" someones trust before,, what the hell do I do?

[drummergirlmarim...]

may i state something? if you really loved your bf, wouldnt you not cheat at all? psycologically, its a proven fact that every human being is addicted to change. thats why people cheat, and thats why in articles to help long-term marriage coupples always suggest "trying something new." i know im really being anal about it, but yeah. and also trust is a VERY fragile thing. i learned it the hard way through my mom. i'm usually the really good girl that does what my mom wants me to do, and tells her everything im doing. but sudden changes in schedules (high school life. very shakey), and one time i forgot to tell her that i was going to go out to hang out with my friend. and everything was ruined. my mom doesnt trust me much now, she keeps tabs on me all the time and doesnt fully trust everything i say. all it takes is one thing. another example, my friend had a bf. she and he were very happy with each other. but the bf was one who committed felony (stabbed a guy's eye with a scissor) and he was on probation. hes really nice, but hes really had some very rough times in his life. and he totally trusted my friend to not tell anyone. but guess what? she told me, and other close friends (6 in all), once he found out that happened, he couldnt stand to trust her completely ever again, and immediately ended it with my friend, because he believes that its impossible to have a relationship with someone you cant trust completely.

yeah, it is a game, to the human mind. but scientists KNOW that its a science thing where chemicals make you THINK thats youre in love >w< its such a long thing to explain :) if you want to noe more about those stuff, just im me at pinkcowzfly :)