Strict Father vs. Teenage Rebellion?, Need to get out. Options

[lojay]

Alright. I know I am not the only one with this problem. I am aware people have bigger problems than me, however, I cannot take it anymore! My parents are driving me insane.

**If this is in the wrong section, sorry, feel free to move it. I figured it was a relationship problem between my parents and myself.

Moving on --

How is everyone else dealing with their parents that are driving them insane and setting boundaries?

I recently was sent to a doctor because I am undergoing stress/panic attacks regularly and fainting as well. And yes, I am eating well. The doctor suggested that I start journaling. I am. It relaxes me, but my parents do a hell of a job at pissing me off even when I'm relaxed.

First off, my dad is 58. I'm 17. He's an "older" father. He went through Vietnam, so he does not take shit from anyone. Recently, his old age has turned him into a grumpy a-hole. He set "rules" for me. Rules?! Are you kidding me?!

I have 2 jobs, and I go to school every day, never sick, attend SAT Prep courses every Saturday, attend ski club, and get good grades. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, and I don't give him any reason to think I'm a bad kid. What is his problem?

I guess what I really want to know is, how does everyone else deal with this crap? Does anyone else have a father who is majorly strict or went through Vietnam and what he says goes? And how do you deal with it? I'm afraid of my own father. It shouldn't be like that.

I can't even talk to my dad because even if I say one thing in defense, his answer is, "You always have an excuse." If I don't do things his way, then I'm punished. Last week I spent the whole day cleaning the house so I could get my car keys back (he took them away because my friends made noise the night before when they were over my house. wtf?) When I go out and have fun and get my parents off my mind, I come home to my dad being in a bad mood and it ruins my night. I can't even go out and have fun anymore.

Even if these are normal problems, why can't I accept them? I feel like I'm overreacting, and at the same time, I'm 100% sure I'm not. I really just want to get out of the house. I have my license and I really want to just get out, but my dad keeps setting curfews or rules for me. There's a new one every week! Help? Please?

[kimmytree]

^ Agreed. Do good in school, and move away for college or something.

I honestly have tried to sit down and talk to him, and if he has ever actually listened, he told me that my problem is my friends and how I need to ditch them and tell my friends not to be so immature. Then he laid down all these rules for me such as no friends allowed to visit our house after 10pm and they have to leave at 11pm. Then said that he isn't, and I'm not, a taxi cab and if my friends need a ride somewhere there parents need to bring them and pick up. (Personally, I think this is just because he is lazy, always has been. He'd rather sit in front of the TV than do something for anyone else). I don't really mind driving my friends places, driving actually relaxes me. I like staying out late and driving just to get away from my parents, but now I have this stupid curfew. Ahh.

Ahh, I actually agree with your dad on that one. 10:00 curfew? 11:00 friends have to leave? Thats pretty lenient. I'm the same age as you are, and I'm lucky to be able to go somewhere without my parents 2-3 times a MONTH. I'm not allowed to be in a car with friends, or have them in a car with me. If you're having to constantly drive your friends everywhere, then yeah, he has a reason for being mad over that. Your friends should be able to get their own ride to/from your house.