Strict Father vs. Teenage Rebellion?, Need to get out. Options

[lojay]

Alright. I know I am not the only one with this problem. I am aware people have bigger problems than me, however, I cannot take it anymore! My parents are driving me insane.

**If this is in the wrong section, sorry, feel free to move it. I figured it was a relationship problem between my parents and myself.

Moving on --

How is everyone else dealing with their parents that are driving them insane and setting boundaries?

I recently was sent to a doctor because I am undergoing stress/panic attacks regularly and fainting as well. And yes, I am eating well. The doctor suggested that I start journaling. I am. It relaxes me, but my parents do a hell of a job at pissing me off even when I'm relaxed.

First off, my dad is 58. I'm 17. He's an "older" father. He went through Vietnam, so he does not take shit from anyone. Recently, his old age has turned him into a grumpy a-hole. He set "rules" for me. Rules?! Are you kidding me?!

I have 2 jobs, and I go to school every day, never sick, attend SAT Prep courses every Saturday, attend ski club, and get good grades. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, and I don't give him any reason to think I'm a bad kid. What is his problem?

I guess what I really want to know is, how does everyone else deal with this crap? Does anyone else have a father who is majorly strict or went through Vietnam and what he says goes? And how do you deal with it? I'm afraid of my own father. It shouldn't be like that.

I can't even talk to my dad because even if I say one thing in defense, his answer is, "You always have an excuse." If I don't do things his way, then I'm punished. Last week I spent the whole day cleaning the house so I could get my car keys back (he took them away because my friends made noise the night before when they were over my house. wtf?) When I go out and have fun and get my parents off my mind, I come home to my dad being in a bad mood and it ruins my night. I can't even go out and have fun anymore.

Even if these are normal problems, why can't I accept them? I feel like I'm overreacting, and at the same time, I'm 100% sure I'm not. I really just want to get out of the house. I have my license and I really want to just get out, but my dad keeps setting curfews or rules for me. There's a new one every week! Help? Please?

[*S0ul_Reaper*]

My dad is in the Air Force he's been to wars also. He was strict growing up and I was always afraid of him, every little problem he would get angry, he was an intimidating person and does things the way he wants it to be done. It looks like your main problem is your dad what about your mom? Theres always good reasons why your dad is acting like that, your only explaining what he is now but how was he before. In my parents point of view rules and curfews are ways to help develop our decision making skills and learn to be responsible. The main thing in a family is communication, if you do not speak up then nothing will get solved. Your gonna exprience the same shit all the time. Even if your scared of your dad you should at least try talking to him, maybe even get to know him better. Distinguishing between the time of having fun and the time of being with your family, learning the responsibilities of being an adult and getting rid of your childish ways. your 17 im guessing your almost 18, my guess is that your dad is maybe trying to prepare you for being an adult considering he's 58 probably has a lonesome life (assuming) but I can't really determine how to help you if your only background is your dad setting rules and what not and how rules irratate you. maybe expand more in specifications.