Strict Father vs. Teenage Rebellion?, Need to get out. Options

[lojay]

Alright. I know I am not the only one with this problem. I am aware people have bigger problems than me, however, I cannot take it anymore! My parents are driving me insane.

**If this is in the wrong section, sorry, feel free to move it. I figured it was a relationship problem between my parents and myself.

Moving on --

How is everyone else dealing with their parents that are driving them insane and setting boundaries?

I recently was sent to a doctor because I am undergoing stress/panic attacks regularly and fainting as well. And yes, I am eating well. The doctor suggested that I start journaling. I am. It relaxes me, but my parents do a hell of a job at pissing me off even when I'm relaxed.

First off, my dad is 58. I'm 17. He's an "older" father. He went through Vietnam, so he does not take shit from anyone. Recently, his old age has turned him into a grumpy a-hole. He set "rules" for me. Rules?! Are you kidding me?!

I have 2 jobs, and I go to school every day, never sick, attend SAT Prep courses every Saturday, attend ski club, and get good grades. I don't drink, I don't do drugs, and I don't give him any reason to think I'm a bad kid. What is his problem?

I guess what I really want to know is, how does everyone else deal with this crap? Does anyone else have a father who is majorly strict or went through Vietnam and what he says goes? And how do you deal with it? I'm afraid of my own father. It shouldn't be like that.

I can't even talk to my dad because even if I say one thing in defense, his answer is, "You always have an excuse." If I don't do things his way, then I'm punished. Last week I spent the whole day cleaning the house so I could get my car keys back (he took them away because my friends made noise the night before when they were over my house. wtf?) When I go out and have fun and get my parents off my mind, I come home to my dad being in a bad mood and it ruins my night. I can't even go out and have fun anymore.

Even if these are normal problems, why can't I accept them? I feel like I'm overreacting, and at the same time, I'm 100% sure I'm not. I really just want to get out of the house. I have my license and I really want to just get out, but my dad keeps setting curfews or rules for me. There's a new one every week! Help? Please?

[xlitoxb]

I'm not sure what to tell you. I used to be afraid of my dad, too and I ended up ignoring. We hardly ever talked and whenever he did I would just walk away. Eventually he backed off because I didn't do anything bad and still did fine in school.

I guess you should prove to him that you can handle yourself and that he needs to back off. Try getting your mom to help you out and explain to her what you're dealing with with your dad. =] Good luck!