How long did you stay friends with someone before you decided to take it to the next level(relationship)? Options

[pkbabe]

I was just wondering because I am pretty new at this "be friends 1st & then consinder relationship" thingy (yes I said "thingy". Get over it. Its 1 of many overused words I like )because before I usually just talk to the guy for about 2-3 weeks & then go out with them. Of course that didn't work out because I'm single now so I wanted to take the "friends 1st" approach instead.

So basically, what is an appropriate time to consinder the status of a possible "relationship"?

Talking about your past experience on this is welcome too

[*Uronacid*]

There is no given rule... you should start when you both feel comfortable about being in a relationship together.


Here's my opinion:

• To me it sounds like you have been in a bunch of unsuccessful relationships leaving you way too desperate for a successful one. I think this because you said that the conversation posted above (keep in mind was not even in real life) was one of the few sweet things that he has ever said to you and when he's not saying sweet things he's either a jerk or not talking. When you stated those things, it really lead me to believe that you were setting for someone who is usually a jerk.
  
  Simply Put: (This guy sounds like a jerk.) + (You like him anyways.) = You are desperate
  
  Don't be desperate for a relationship. Find a quality man, don't worry about not finding someone at 19 years old (worry about it when you're 40).
  
• One thing I have learned throughout the course of my most recent relationship is: "You have to treat each other as equals no matter what your age is." He's treating you like a kid. Do you want a boyfriend or a father figure? It doesn't matter what age you were when he was your age. When I was five my girlfriend was dead. Does that matter, no, not if I treat her right.
  
• You said, "I'm in conflict with myself!"Don't jump into this thing unless both halves agree. Like I said, I think you're desperate for a relationship. It's that desperate half that's kicking in. Don't make the wrong choice.