How long did you stay friends with someone before you decided to take it to the next level(relationship)? Options

[pkbabe]

I was just wondering because I am pretty new at this "be friends 1st & then consinder relationship" thingy (yes I said "thingy". Get over it. Its 1 of many overused words I like )because before I usually just talk to the guy for about 2-3 weeks & then go out with them. Of course that didn't work out because I'm single now so I wanted to take the "friends 1st" approach instead.

So basically, what is an appropriate time to consinder the status of a possible "relationship"?

Talking about your past experience on this is welcome too

[pkbabe]

but if you already like this guy, I'd say get to know him pretty well (which can maybe 3 months or so?) before you dive in. but then again, it all depends. If you get the feeling he likes you already, go for it.

Yes I like him & he likes me too thats the good thing. Were actually kinda romantically involved? I'm not totally sure of our status. We act like were dating but @ the same time we don't cuz we just call each other "friends". We've been "friends" for about a month. We have awkward/shy moments when we would say bye to each other until he moves in for a kiss. But the last we hung out he actually hugged me 1st & then the usual awkward/shy kiss

The age difference plays a big factor in this too. I am 19 & he just turned 27 last week. I know it shouldn't be a big deal but it is because when I try to have a conversation with him on AIM(he lives an hr away & he doesn't like talking on the phone) he seems kinda boring & is sorta a jerky. & by jerky I mean treating me like a lil kid & talking down @ me. But its strange because there are times when he can be sweet.

Heres a bit of stuff from our AIM conversations(when hes sweet):

Him: i like you..
Me: You do?
Me: REALLY?
Him: but yeah.. i think you're too inexperienced for me..


Him: i think you'll grow into a beautiful woman..
Him: right now you're in the process..
Him: that's maybe why..
Me: Cuz I'm not full grown?

Ok...so the sweetness is pretty much killed when he implies I'm not "full grown" yet.

When hes being jerky, he tells me that I talk too much(how the hell do you talk too much on AIM? Its AIM!!!) when I try to keep a conversation going. He tends to not reply alot. Also since we both know we like each other & stuff, he always mentioning how I can be 1 of his 2 gfs thats he always wanted because apparently hes more than I woman can handle(cocky jerk!) If thats his weird/twisted way of asking me out then of course I'm gonna deny him! For a grown man I didn't expect him to be playing games(or maybe hes just a jerk? Who knows..)like some immature teen...& I'M immature?! ha!

& our last AIM conversation was of me thinking about moving in with my mom(which is close to him) because of some personal issues & he seemed so determined to have me move closer to him. I ask if him wanthing me to move out had anything to do with him wanting me closer & all he said was that I don't seem happy @ home

and remember that not all friendships end up with dating.... good luck

I am very aware & I don't just want to be friends with him or wait too long because I would be stuck in the "friends zone" Blah

I'm sry I made this so long. I wanted to put details so my situation is easier to understand

[krnxswat]

Heres a bit of stuff from our AIM conversations(when hes sweet):

Him: i like you..
Me: You do?
Me: REALLY?
Him: but yeah.. i think you're too inexperienced for me..
Him: i think you'll grow into a beautiful woman..
Him: right now you're in the process..
Him: that's maybe why..
Me: Cuz I'm not full grown?

Okay, I'm going to be a little blunt and honest with you.

You call that sweet?
To me, pathetic would be the more appropriate word.

There he is, 27 and all grown up. He's expressing his feelings to you OVER THE INTERNET.
I did that in like.. fourth grade.

Move on. He's too old for you.