How long did you stay friends with someone before you decided to take it to the next level(relationship)? Options

[pkbabe]

I was just wondering because I am pretty new at this "be friends 1st & then consinder relationship" thingy (yes I said "thingy". Get over it. Its 1 of many overused words I like )because before I usually just talk to the guy for about 2-3 weeks & then go out with them. Of course that didn't work out because I'm single now so I wanted to take the "friends 1st" approach instead.

So basically, what is an appropriate time to consinder the status of a possible "relationship"?

Talking about your past experience on this is welcome too

[pkbabe]

but if you already like this guy, I'd say get to know him pretty well (which can maybe 3 months or so?) before you dive in. but then again, it all depends. If you get the feeling he likes you already, go for it.

Yes I like him & he likes me too thats the good thing. Were actually kinda romantically involved? I'm not totally sure of our status. We act like were dating but @ the same time we don't cuz we just call each other "friends". We've been "friends" for about a month. We have awkward/shy moments when we would say bye to each other until he moves in for a kiss. But the last we hung out he actually hugged me 1st & then the usual awkward/shy kiss

The age difference plays a big factor in this too. I am 19 & he just turned 27 last week. I know it shouldn't be a big deal but it is because when I try to have a conversation with him on AIM(he lives an hr away & he doesn't like talking on the phone) he seems kinda boring & is sorta a jerky. & by jerky I mean treating me like a lil kid & talking down @ me. But its strange because there are times when he can be sweet.

Heres a bit of stuff from our AIM conversations(when hes sweet):

Him: i like you..
Me: You do?
Me: REALLY?
Him: but yeah.. i think you're too inexperienced for me..


Him: i think you'll grow into a beautiful woman..
Him: right now you're in the process..
Him: that's maybe why..
Me: Cuz I'm not full grown?

Ok...so the sweetness is pretty much killed when he implies I'm not "full grown" yet.

When hes being jerky, he tells me that I talk too much(how the hell do you talk too much on AIM? Its AIM!!!) when I try to keep a conversation going. He tends to not reply alot. Also since we both know we like each other & stuff, he always mentioning how I can be 1 of his 2 gfs thats he always wanted because apparently hes more than I woman can handle(cocky jerk!) If thats his weird/twisted way of asking me out then of course I'm gonna deny him! For a grown man I didn't expect him to be playing games(or maybe hes just a jerk? Who knows..)like some immature teen...& I'M immature?! ha!

& our last AIM conversation was of me thinking about moving in with my mom(which is close to him) because of some personal issues & he seemed so determined to have me move closer to him. I ask if him wanthing me to move out had anything to do with him wanting me closer & all he said was that I don't seem happy @ home

and remember that not all friendships end up with dating.... good luck

I am very aware & I don't just want to be friends with him or wait too long because I would be stuck in the "friends zone" Blah

I'm sry I made this so long. I wanted to put details so my situation is easier to understand