Should I be?, luv & honesty Options

[ChibiLovey]

OK,so I had a boyfriend.Barely broke up yesterday night,but then he want to get back with me.And I don't know what I should do...I mean we have things in common,and it's almost Valentine's Day.My friends supported me to agree,but both of us don't want to hurt each other again...what should I do?

We both feeling all awkward about it,and I have no idea how he's feeling...'cause we're being separated by distance and parents,and I'm not sure if our relationships can last any longer.And since he's really smart and talented,most of the things I told him are lies....I felt I should be honest,but can't help it... (I'm the master of all lies...kidding.But this story is true...).I also felt as if he's lying to me as well...I mean he's way too adorable,and girl go gaga on him.I'm not sure if he likes other girls,too.So yeah........Why did he have to pick me..T_T

I feel so used...what should I do?Please help...

[multifaceted]

If you lied from the start, it is no use getting back together. When he finds out then he is going to dump you for sure, so might as well save the trouble, and don't make yourself look like a fool when he does find out.

[ChibiLovey]

If you lied from the start, it is no use getting back together. When he finds out then he is going to dump you for sure, so might as well save the trouble, and don't make yourself look like a fool when he does find out.

I can see why people said this....and I agree for some reasons.And no,I'm not trying to make myself looking like a fool.And I'm not feeling ashame about stuff,except the part that I lied to him.T_T

@Uronacid: Well,since he's smart.I just say like I'm in classes that I don't really have.And then mostly like to show-off some stuff which I don't have...yet.= = And since he's into some stuff,I thought it would be nice if I agree with them as well,which I still don't have.Hm...done.

[*Uronacid*]

I can see why people said this....and I agree for some reasons.And no,I'm not trying to make myself looking like a fool.And I'm not feeling ashame about stuff,except the part that I lied to him.T_T

@Uronacid: Well,since he's smart.I just say like I'm in classes that I don't really have.And then mostly like to show-off some stuff which I don't have...yet.= = And since he's into some stuff,I thought it would be nice if I agree with them as well,which I still don't have.Hm...done.

Well, about the lying part... you should always be yourself in a relationship. If you haven't been yourself then your partner doesn't like you for who you are. If they don' like you for who you are then what's the point of the relationship in the first place?

Well, for me I have seen two positive reasons to enter into a relationship:

1. You're looking for a long term relationship (possibly ending in marriage)
2. You just want to have fun. (It's not serious, maybe you just want to add a little spice to your life.)

Well, you certainly aren't looking for a long term relationship by lying to impress, and definitely not fun when you are only being appreciated for something you aren't. I'm not trying to make you feel guilty, but you have to realize that by lying you're only hurting yourself. What are you after when you lie to him?


Anyways, you said you were both separated by distance and parents.

My questions for you:

1. What's the distance you're working with?
2. What's it about the parents that's keeping you apart?

[ChibiLovey]

My questions for you:

1. What's the distance you're working with?
2. What's it about the parents that's keeping you apart?

The distance of our relationship is really far away...I'm livin' in ze America..you know,the place where ze munkey fo ze puresidente.xD jkjkjk...got tht from a friend.Well,anywayz,I do live in America and he lives all the way in Thailand,Bangkok.T_T

And no,my parents approve since they talked to his parents.=] Super cool!!!x3

@ xMyStIcShAd0wSx: And no,it's NOT the same.He might be cheating on me,but I dunno...he seems really honest,and I bet his parents kept him this way.So I'm not sure...and we are at a close relationship cuz we suggested to each other that we are gonna be bf/gf when he gets back over here with me.He's a international student from JP to Thailand,BTW.

@ JakeKKing: I'm trying to give him clues of what I'm lying about,he'd noticed most of it,yet OKI.He said he won't mind...but I still think it's wrong.I have nothing but NON self-esteem...T_T I tried to say yes...but then again,staying single and being cared by him is not a bad thing.You are right,I should tell him all the things about me,and be truthful about it.Shouldn't be lying this way,I'll feel worse than ever (if I do)...= =