Being led on, or being used? Options

[SpedMonkee]

Ok, I am going to try to explain this the best i can because as of right now I am not very clear headed and am so unbelievably angry.

For those who don't know the background here: (reading it is not necessary)
http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=163654

But I have liked this girl for a long time now and when I finally told her how I felt (which was a little over a week after she broke up with her bf of 1 year) she said "this is a horrible time to tell me". I agreed, and understood, so I gave her some space.

SHE then starts to flirt with me (leaning on my, sleeping on me, holding my hand) a few days later. She kept it up, not me though I didnt push her away or anything. Things kept up like this for about a week or so, then last saturday she didnt hang out with me and our group because "one of her friends was coming home for the weekend". Since then she seemed distant and then wednesday rolls around and she TEXTS me, yes texts me, this:

"Dont Wait for me, im sorry but i dont think i feel the same way you feel about me and there is someone i am kind of seeing....And I am sorry if i have ever let you on in any way, I didnt mean to. I just wanted things to stay the same."

Then later on that night goes on to list herself as in a relationship.

I havnt talked to her about it since, mainly because I am so pissed off and upset I dont even know what to say to her.

I feel like I was just being used to help her get over her ex. And the fact that she was "seeing somone" the whole time just makes me even angrier.

I havn't talked to her, or anyone for that matter, about it because I feel like I am just overecting considering we never went out and such.


Even if no one responds to this (though i hope someone does ) it was good to vent everything and let it out.

[hidden_soul]

hmmm,
well here's a females p.o.v:
seeing that she just got out of a long term relationship, her feelings and emotions are toussled everywhere. since you told her how you felt when she was still in this stage, she took it on as a "safety." She leaned on you, held your hand because it made her feel safe. safe from the reality that someone she once loved isnt there for her anymore. she needed some form of stability and you sir, were the perfect catch. sorry to say but since now she's "seeing someone," its time to back off.....

if you need some more advice or someone to talk to, i'm always here!

good luck!
hidden_soul

[SpedMonkee]

sorry to say but since now she's "seeing someone," its time to back off.....

I have backed off. I have barely spoken two words to her since then and cant really even look at her in person.


I don't know what hurts/bothers me more: the fact that she doesn't feel the same way about me, or that she was seeing somone this entire time. It just all really frustrates me and pisses me off.

[hidden_soul]

I don't know what hurts/bothers me more: the fact that she doesn't feel the same way about me, or that she was seeing somone this entire time. It just all really frustrates me and pisses me off.

well you can't really blame a person for not returning feelings. just because you've been friends with her for 4 years doesn't mean you guys will go platinum.
i understand that she was seeing someone the entire time pissed you off. but did she ever imply that she WAS indeed interested in another? she's confused, give her some space (which you have) and things should return to normal, if thats what you want.

good luck!
hidden_soul

[shortcake]

well you can't really blame a person for not returning feelings. just because you've been friends with her for 4 years doesn't mean you guys will go platinum.

the chick should never have led you on though. that really sucks and i feel for you. the same sht happenned to me. hope things get better