Being led on, or being used? Options

[SpedMonkee]

Ok, I am going to try to explain this the best i can because as of right now I am not very clear headed and am so unbelievably angry.

For those who don't know the background here: (reading it is not necessary)
http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=163654

But I have liked this girl for a long time now and when I finally told her how I felt (which was a little over a week after she broke up with her bf of 1 year) she said "this is a horrible time to tell me". I agreed, and understood, so I gave her some space.

SHE then starts to flirt with me (leaning on my, sleeping on me, holding my hand) a few days later. She kept it up, not me though I didnt push her away or anything. Things kept up like this for about a week or so, then last saturday she didnt hang out with me and our group because "one of her friends was coming home for the weekend". Since then she seemed distant and then wednesday rolls around and she TEXTS me, yes texts me, this:

"Dont Wait for me, im sorry but i dont think i feel the same way you feel about me and there is someone i am kind of seeing....And I am sorry if i have ever let you on in any way, I didnt mean to. I just wanted things to stay the same."

Then later on that night goes on to list herself as in a relationship.

I havnt talked to her about it since, mainly because I am so pissed off and upset I dont even know what to say to her.

I feel like I was just being used to help her get over her ex. And the fact that she was "seeing somone" the whole time just makes me even angrier.

I havn't talked to her, or anyone for that matter, about it because I feel like I am just overecting considering we never went out and such.


Even if no one responds to this (though i hope someone does ) it was good to vent everything and let it out.

[*Uronacid*]

Ok, I am going to try to explain this the best i can because as of right now I am not very clear headed and am so unbelievably angry.

For those who don't know the background here: (reading it is not necessary)
http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=163654

But I have liked this girl for a long time now and when I finally told her how I felt (which was a little over a week after she broke up with her bf of 1 year) she said "this is a horrible time to tell me". I agreed, and understood, so I gave her some space.

SHE then starts to flirt with me (leaning on my, sleeping on me, holding my hand) a few days later. She kept it up, not me though I didnt push her away or anything. Things kept up like this for about a week or so, then last saturday she didnt hang out with me and our group because "one of her friends was coming home for the weekend". Since then she seemed distant and then wednesday rolls around and she TEXTS me, yes texts me, this:

"Dont Wait for me, im sorry but i dont think i feel the same way you feel about me and there is someone i am kind of seeing....And I am sorry if i have ever let you on in any way, I didnt mean to. I just wanted things to stay the same."

Then later on that night goes on to list herself as in a relationship.

I havnt talked to her about it since, mainly because I am so pissed off and upset I dont even know what to say to her.

I feel like I was just being used to help her get over her ex. And the fact that she was "seeing somone" the whole time just makes me even angrier.

I havn't talked to her, or anyone for that matter, about it because I feel like I am just overecting considering we never went out and such.
Even if no one responds to this (though i hope someone does ) it was good to vent everything and let it out.

Well, you aren't level headed at all. You're angry. People who are angry tend to make decisions that are extreme.

Hmmm, well... I personally see it as your mistake, and you really need to learn from it. You know, it is ok to offer support if someone has been crushed by the loss of a relationship, but it's almost a golden rule not to fall for them or date them.

RULE #126: Do not date someone directly after they have come out of a serious relationship.

That's like asking to be used. I feel bad for you, but you just need to learn from your mistake. She could have never sent that text message, and put you on hold like most people do. You should be thankful she sent it.

[*Sephora.*]

RULE #126: Do not date someone directly after they have come out of a serious relationship.

^ I agree.

Man. You got used. Honestly, you shouldn't have asked her out right before she got out of a serious relationship. But at least she sent it in a text message. It'd be more meaningful if she told it to you face to face. I hope everything works out.