Daddy Options

[smileeetina]

One last chance.

[maximelids]

Hey I understand how you feel, I had a stormy past too.

My dad was an Elite Commando in the French army. He joined the army as a human and he left the army as a monster. He was trained to kill and forget about his family.
He had an accident and had to leave the army. He came home to my mother and he caused so many problems for her. He was a totally changed man for the worse.
He niglated my mother, beat her and drank a lot too.
My mother was a brave woman to stay on with him for so many years. Each time she told herself that he would change. Each time she licked her wounds and wished for the best.
2 kids and many years later, my mother gave up. She divorced him and left with me and my sister, back to Singapore.

The thing is that we went through hell. Each time, we told ourselves that he would change for the better. But he did not. Since we left him, he has changed a lot.
He is with my step-mom now, he calls me once every few years..

It always takes something dramatic in life to change a person.
I don't beleive that someone can change without something dramatic happening in life.
The dramatic thing that changed my dad is when we left. After that, then he reliased the importance of family. We gave him so many chances but he blew it.
Frankly, I would accpet my Dad back, if one day he asks to be. Because it's him that gave me life. He might have been a horrible man, but he still is my dad after-all.
I have learned over the years to accept him for what he is. He might not be the best dad in the world, but still I feel the connection with him. I do write to him e-mails. Tough he never replies, at least I know that I tired my best to keep in contact with him, so I regret NOTHING at all.

If I was you, I would tell this to my dad.
'For years I have stuck with your bullshit. I am willing to forgive you. I am giving you a last chance to change. If you blow this chance, you will never see me again when I walk out of this door!'
Since he said he is willing to change, give him the chance. You might never know, he might change for the better. But make sure this is the last chance!
If you do leave the house, please don't keep this matter as a burden in your heart, because it was for your own good.

I wish you all the best!
Max