Being led on, or being used? Options

[SpedMonkee]

Ok, I am going to try to explain this the best i can because as of right now I am not very clear headed and am so unbelievably angry.

For those who don't know the background here: (reading it is not necessary)
http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=163654

But I have liked this girl for a long time now and when I finally told her how I felt (which was a little over a week after she broke up with her bf of 1 year) she said "this is a horrible time to tell me". I agreed, and understood, so I gave her some space.

SHE then starts to flirt with me (leaning on my, sleeping on me, holding my hand) a few days later. She kept it up, not me though I didnt push her away or anything. Things kept up like this for about a week or so, then last saturday she didnt hang out with me and our group because "one of her friends was coming home for the weekend". Since then she seemed distant and then wednesday rolls around and she TEXTS me, yes texts me, this:

"Dont Wait for me, im sorry but i dont think i feel the same way you feel about me and there is someone i am kind of seeing....And I am sorry if i have ever let you on in any way, I didnt mean to. I just wanted things to stay the same."

Then later on that night goes on to list herself as in a relationship.

I havnt talked to her about it since, mainly because I am so pissed off and upset I dont even know what to say to her.

I feel like I was just being used to help her get over her ex. And the fact that she was "seeing somone" the whole time just makes me even angrier.

I havn't talked to her, or anyone for that matter, about it because I feel like I am just overecting considering we never went out and such.


Even if no one responds to this (though i hope someone does ) it was good to vent everything and let it out.

[maximelids]

Hey dude,
I had the same problem as you.

I met this great girl, she had the whole package, looks and personality.
It's kind of complicated how we met. She broke up with my friend, than my friend asked me to try to get them back together, at the end me and the girl, we started chatting and we got together. I did not backstab my friend, but instead I fell in her 'trap'.

Everything was going great, but she had a lot of personal problems (Very bad ones). I tried hard to try and help her, at the end she started to take me more as a friend, because she wanted 'sexual stuff' in the relationship, but I am limit to kissing.
After 2 weeks, she started to act wierd towards me and I can sense a break up. Eventually it did come.

After a month, she broke of with her new boyfriend and came back to me. She promised me to change and respect my 'rules' in the relationship. I comforted her and she did feel better.
A week later, she left me for a new guy.

I am going to be straight forward with you.
Just ignore and forget her. She is using you like my ex used me, a shoulder to cry on. They took us more like a pillow to hug when things get bad, and when things get better, they leave us behind.
What I did was hard for me as I loved her a lot. I ignored and forgot her. It was really hard, but I did it for my own good. If every time I was there for her when she came back. I think I would have broken my heart a million times.

Well I hope my advice is some help to you and i wish you the best dude.