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[skillxz]

Hey, Just wonderin about a few things.

First off, if you're together, it a given that you guys are supposed to hang out n' lunch n' all, or could hangin around all happen afterschoo, and in class, and on times out n' stuff? I'm just not sure she'd feel confortable hangin out with all my friends at lunch, and mabey vice versa.

Also, when you 2 are riding together in a car n' stuff..and you're just driving and sorta mindless at the moment, or just thinking, or looking around just concentrating on driving, and its quiet between you two for awhile, is that considered sorta uncomfortable for her or you? I mean iono, any second of quietness seems sorta uncomfortable for me, like im thinkin of something to say or cuz of me thinking they think I have nothing to say.

Thanks in advance.

[skillxz]

so is that What you did in all those situations, just asked her? Or did it just happen..i guess?

And when you get into a relationship, exactly how are you getting into each others lives? Could it really be your normal life style you were having before, but just with someone new to hang around with and confide in, or is there alot more to it?

[*Uronacid*]

so is that What you did in all those situations, just asked her? Or did it just happen..i guess?
I learned from mistakes and experience... Most girls like you to figure it out on your own. It's like they expect you to know what they are thinking, and it's really frustrating. Best thing you can do is do what you think is best, take a mental note when you mess up, and if you're unsure ask.


And when you get into a relationship, exactly how are you getting into each others lives?

What do you mean by this?


Could it really be your normal life style you were having before, but just with someone new to hang around with and confide in, or is there a lot more to it?

Of course you can live your normal life style! Relationships are about changing yourself for someone else. That will just send you down the "road of regret". In fact, many people who change to much in a relationship for to long forget who they were. I did this with my first girlfriend. The more I analyze my first relationship, the more I realize that I was always trying to fit myself into her life. I was changing for her, and when we broke up I didn't even know what I enjoyed anymore. She said yes (to dating you) because she like what she saw right? So, keep being yourself.

Does she expect a call or two everyday, or what if sometimes im just feelin like shit or have lots to do, and just don't get a chance to talk to her, does that go by weird to her, like, hmm...he hasn't talked to me or anything at all?

Well, if it is a routine thing that you talk everyday. Just give her a quick call and tell her so she doesn't feel like you're taking it out on her.

And of PDA, girls usually don't like it? I always thought they did, and thought it was sweet if a guy came out and actually hugged held hands, kissed (just sensual/onthecheak/peck). Would they be embarrassed? Don't they like being shown affection in public?

Depends on the girl, some do (some like a lot of attention) and some don't. If you're really confused about something it's best to either:

1. Do it when it feels natural, and get scolded if she doesn't like it (some girls like it when you do risky things)
2. ask her, she should tell you... and if she likes it she'll say something like, "do it and you'll find out."