appreciation/attention, frustration Options

[Dabme]

alright so my bestfriend expects so much from me (my attention whenever he asks for it, expects me to say yes whenever he asks me to do something, and he ALWAYS asks me to do things i would never do for any one else, not even my self) but its complicated because he makes me feel sorry for him and so everytime he asks for something i just do it. But i hate it because he doesnt do things for me in return, and the things i (indirectly ask/things you should already do when your someones bestfriend) he doesnt even do. Its like whenever we try to have an important conversation and its time for me to talke he never pays attention or he starts listening to what other people are saying.Then he complains that i never say anything when we talk, but thats only because he never gives me time to talk! hes always the one whos talking.

- i feel like hes using me...
-any of you guys have this problem
-HELP? any suggestions on how i should fix this problem

[Kontroll]

Listen, don't listen to them. He obviously is your friend, or at least that's the impression that I got. Anyway, the reason he is this way is because you're letting him. Right now the ball is in his court because no one has challenged him.

He's not making you feel guilty...You are feeling guilty because you feel that you should be a good friend and do things for him even though you get nothing in return. So, you're making yourself feel guitly. Understand? Don't blame your feelings or actions on another person.

You have to tell him that things are going wrong between you two, and that it has to change. You have to confront him. As hard as it is, it will help. It's been in my experience, a relationship builder. I have never had a bad experience from confrontation. Ew, my RootBeer just tasted like pickles. Haha. Sorry, but you have to do that. He's not going to change if no one tells him he has to. He's not using you...He's just taking advantage of the situation. He knows how you will react and plays on it. If you throw in something new, he will definitely listen..Maybe not at first, but there should be a change in both your attitudes.

Also, tell me. If you were gonna go about this with out any help from some one else, how would you try and fix the situation? Seriously.. I want to know.

So, that's my advice. I suggest you listen. Cause, confrontation really does work. Peace.