i wanna be out going Options

[dave chapp]

hey im quite shy, im not a p***k tho i have loadsa mates but one on one situations are awkward i wanna be realy out going any ideas? thanks xxxxxxx

[kimmytree]

LOL @ you bleeping out "punk".

Okay, my advice is..................................................sorry, try something else. If you're not outgoing, you're not gonna become outgoing. Some people are just shy. Make it work for you, somehow. Because there is nothing worse than a fake ass person

I guess thats true in a sense. A very shy person will never be extremely outgoing. Its like a wallflower magically turning into the class clown. Thats like jumping from one end of the spectrum to the other. But, its definately possible for a shy person to be somewhere in the middle.

I know exactly how you feel. I might have even been worse. Up until a year ago or so, I didnt want to even go to school because I was so shy / self conscious. I stuttered and freaked out just in basic conversation with my closest friends. I could barely raise my hand when the teacher would go through attendance. For me, once I gained some self confidence, I feel like I'm completely normal now. My problem was that I didnt think I was smart enough, that I was too overweight, and ugly. Usually when someone is really shy, its because they have problems with their self confidence.

^ And whatever those things are, realize that your probably completely blowing them out of porportion. And errr.... *thinks lol* be happy!

Ehh I'm not very good at giving advice.

[edit] Tomorrow at school, whether they're guys or girls, try having a brief conversation with 2 or 3 people that you usually dont or never talk to. Set a goal for yourself. Then over time, slowly increase your goals.