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[JenxCrazii]

heyy...
a long time ago i used to be very popular and nice in a good way and everyone liked me. omg it was a great feeling.

then i started not to toalk soo muchh and be quiett..
teh only thing that made me well nown was nice ness and intelligence..

buhh now im kindaa losign friends and its hard to make friends..
i don't rally no what to do..

i don't want people to think im a loser or emo or a shy gurl..
&& its hard to talk to new ppl at schools and stuff cuz youhh can't talk in classes and someitmes a person may not have similar interests and you can be boring..

[*Uronacid*]

If you want to make some friends, you're :

- take part in an after-school activity (newspaper club, art club).

Participating in school activities is the easiest, and quite possibly one of the best ways to meet friends. You spend a lot of time with a group of people, and end up getting to know them.

As-far-as labeling goes, People are going to label you no matter what you do. If you're quiet it's probably the worst because people won't get to know you, and will evaluate/judge you without seeing who you really are or getting to know you. Don't sweat it, it's normal. I know you don't want this to happen, but there is nothing you can do about it. Just keep being yourself, and worry about the things that you can control. Do you really want to act like something you aren't just so you can have friends? No, believe me, you don't... because you'll regret it...

Um, start talking more. I know it's hard cause I'm pretty quitet myself, and I really only have like four really good friends. I don't really like meeting new people. I'm pretty much the same way you are now. Um, just talk to your friends. Tell them how you feel and what you're going through whether it be small or large. They're your friends and they should listen.

Another thing. This definitely will be a shock to your system and uncomfortable, but start being more active in things at school. Like, on a sports team or some stupid club. Just randomly start saying hi to people in the hall ways. Even if they give you a crappy look, it will start to get easier for you. Everything comes with practice. I'm learning that myself. Good luck Jen.

One thing that I didn't say (probably because I'm not a very quiet person myself), practice makes perfect... Jake's right, start doing things that will take you out of your comfort zone (like saying, "hi" or telling people how you feel). eventually you'll just get over it.