my parents ruined my life. Options

[JerzDevil]

Ever since I was born, I was fine with my surroundings, who I was friends with, the community, the schools, relationships, etc. It started to get buried after 6th grade. During 4th-6th grade I made a lot of friends I can sure go to when I'm in trouble, who I can trust 100% of the time no matter what situation. After 6th grade graduation, I was excited for middle school. I was thinking "Oh it'll be the time where things would get more exciting" .. but like weeks later in the summer, they say we're going to move sometime this week. I was f**king mad and sad at the same time. I had to leave every shit behind and had to start over. So I moved to this town and it was totally different. The population was less, more whites, more quiet, boring ... so obviously I had attend middle school there. It was f**king miserable. I got suspended, got racial remarks from dirty white people, and had backstabbers. Before where I lived, I had about 20 close friends I hung out with, and here, I only have like 4. I begged my parents to move back but they were like "No" .. I just don't feel comfortable here. But now that I'm in high school in this town, I hope things would be fresh but it's going alright. Still f**ked it up. ever been ina situation like this?

[*I Shot JFK*]

Look.

I moved to a whole new country and had to start again. I sulked for, oh, about a year. And things only got better when I realized that we weren't going to up stakes and move back. I still keep in contact with people I knew, and there is no reason why you can't do it with your old friends. if anything, Nicki and I are possibly closer now than we would have been if I'd stayed there... who knows?

The bottom line is dont waste your life wondering 'what if I'd never moved', because you have. If you don't feel immediately comfortable with most of the people there, power through. Yea, it might be awkward and suck at first, but if you keep at it with a decent attitude (i.e not saying things like 'asians aren't emos', which creates a bad impression), it will only get better.

And even if you never become part of a huge crowd, so what? You said yourself you 'only' have 4 or so close friends, but friendsarent generally measured in numbers... quality over quantity and so forth.

Oh, and on a side note, blaming your parents won't help. Been there, done that. Chances are, they miss elements of where ever you lived before, and having someone whine at them wont generate any sympathy.