Is this wrong?, We're a lot more than friends... Options

[zombiexguts]

I don't even know what to call him - my exboyfriend, my boyfriend, or my friend.
We had been dating for about 7 months. I had lost contact with him when he
had dropped out of school, and when I started talking to him again last May [Around
his birthday], I realized and finally admit I was in love with him. He helped me through
a very serious problem, and thanks to him, I am no longer in that situation. I am sixteen [Just turned sixteen in November], and he's nineteen [he'll be twenty this May]. Thing is,
I don't care much for the age gap - it's just a restriction, and I've gotten into so much
trouble with my grandma because of it [it was a really fun experience though.]

We share so many similar interests, we always have a great time in each other's
company, we can make fun of each other without taking it to heart and laugh
at ourselves. He has had a rough life, and I haven't had it as bad as his.

Anyways, around late November, he said it would be better if we were just friends.
He said he did not want to hurt me in any sort of way - that he wanted me to make
sure that I absolutely know that he's the one for me. I may be young, and we may
still have a long way to go, but I honestly do believe he's the one for me, and me for
him. We still do the whole couple thing, but on his terms, we're nothing but friends. And
I don't know if that's wrong, or, if he really does love me - because I consider the things
he says.

As stated, he said he doesn't want to hurt me, he says that he wants me to 'dip in other
ponds', and about a couple of days ago, while we were 'doing the deed', he brought up
me baring his child - and I don't know if that's something BIG in a relationship, or just
something to think about.

I love him so much, and recent things he has said makes me believe that we'll be
together soon.

What do you think? Is it wrong to continue relations with him, and really just keep it as friends, or continue doing the spontaneous things?

[*Uronacid*]

The whole age gap thing... well, that honestly doesn't phase me... it's not that big of a deal, but the fact that he's a high school drop out and he's talking about having kids is pretty scary. I would NOT have kids. That is a BAD idea. You are too young, and to make such a decision would be completely stupid and irresponsible.

You make it sound like you guys have already had sex, and your grandmother caught you... I'm surprised he didn't goto jail. I swear, if my daughter was dating a high school drop out and I had a chance to ruin their relationship. I would definitively do it!

I don't know how to convince you that dating this guy is just plain stupidity. HE HAS NO FUTURE!! You have to realize that you are going into a relationship that is destined for failure.

You are completely blinded with obsession. No matter how much you love him, your love will not change reality!!

Lil_cloud is right, he's probably taking advantage of your affection. If you have kids with this moron you are going to be trapped with this looser for a good portion of your life.