Is this wrong?, We're a lot more than friends... Options

[zombiexguts]

I don't even know what to call him - my exboyfriend, my boyfriend, or my friend.
We had been dating for about 7 months. I had lost contact with him when he
had dropped out of school, and when I started talking to him again last May [Around
his birthday], I realized and finally admit I was in love with him. He helped me through
a very serious problem, and thanks to him, I am no longer in that situation. I am sixteen [Just turned sixteen in November], and he's nineteen [he'll be twenty this May]. Thing is,
I don't care much for the age gap - it's just a restriction, and I've gotten into so much
trouble with my grandma because of it [it was a really fun experience though.]

We share so many similar interests, we always have a great time in each other's
company, we can make fun of each other without taking it to heart and laugh
at ourselves. He has had a rough life, and I haven't had it as bad as his.

Anyways, around late November, he said it would be better if we were just friends.
He said he did not want to hurt me in any sort of way - that he wanted me to make
sure that I absolutely know that he's the one for me. I may be young, and we may
still have a long way to go, but I honestly do believe he's the one for me, and me for
him. We still do the whole couple thing, but on his terms, we're nothing but friends. And
I don't know if that's wrong, or, if he really does love me - because I consider the things
he says.

As stated, he said he doesn't want to hurt me, he says that he wants me to 'dip in other
ponds', and about a couple of days ago, while we were 'doing the deed', he brought up
me baring his child - and I don't know if that's something BIG in a relationship, or just
something to think about.

I love him so much, and recent things he has said makes me believe that we'll be
together soon.

What do you think? Is it wrong to continue relations with him, and really just keep it as friends, or continue doing the spontaneous things?

[espressive]

Okay, first off, that's statutory rape.

Second, it sounds like he's sweet-talking you to take advantage. I'm not saying that this is true, but this is commonly the case as I've discovered amongst others. Once again, that is a generalization, that is not necessarily applicable to your situation. However, I do suggest that you should confide and ask for the opinion of somebody you trust, or at least, be open to the opinions of some of the cBers. When you are in these situations, your feelings often cloud your better judgement. Trust me, you don't want that to happen. In my personal opinion, I think him saying "let's be friends", yet still continuing to "do the couple thing", as you put it, is the part that stands out. When you say, "do the couple thing", do you honestly mean being a couple or being like a couple? Those are different. Think about it. How many of those couple-ly things are physically related? Be truthful now. If most of those things happen to be physically related, I think that he is taking advantage of you. You're vulnerable; you say you love him. Guys can see this. Don't tell me, "he's not the type! he won't do that!", because honestly hun, you are so wrong. If you don't believe me, then at least let me warn you of the big surprise. Now if these "couple-ly things" happen to include a lot of meaningful conversations, just enjoying eachother's company without adding physical twists, going out on dates and the likes, then I say that he's just not ready to be in a relationship at this point. Be honest when you evaluate your relationship. If you don't, it'll only hurt you more in the long run.

And lastly, if you're having doubts - follow your instincts. Relationships are about trust. If you don't trust in the relationship as it is, as you are seeking outside opinions, then how do you expect the relationship to continue?