Is this wrong?, We're a lot more than friends... Options

[zombiexguts]

I don't even know what to call him - my exboyfriend, my boyfriend, or my friend.
We had been dating for about 7 months. I had lost contact with him when he
had dropped out of school, and when I started talking to him again last May [Around
his birthday], I realized and finally admit I was in love with him. He helped me through
a very serious problem, and thanks to him, I am no longer in that situation. I am sixteen [Just turned sixteen in November], and he's nineteen [he'll be twenty this May]. Thing is,
I don't care much for the age gap - it's just a restriction, and I've gotten into so much
trouble with my grandma because of it [it was a really fun experience though.]

We share so many similar interests, we always have a great time in each other's
company, we can make fun of each other without taking it to heart and laugh
at ourselves. He has had a rough life, and I haven't had it as bad as his.

Anyways, around late November, he said it would be better if we were just friends.
He said he did not want to hurt me in any sort of way - that he wanted me to make
sure that I absolutely know that he's the one for me. I may be young, and we may
still have a long way to go, but I honestly do believe he's the one for me, and me for
him. We still do the whole couple thing, but on his terms, we're nothing but friends. And
I don't know if that's wrong, or, if he really does love me - because I consider the things
he says.

As stated, he said he doesn't want to hurt me, he says that he wants me to 'dip in other
ponds', and about a couple of days ago, while we were 'doing the deed', he brought up
me baring his child - and I don't know if that's something BIG in a relationship, or just
something to think about.

I love him so much, and recent things he has said makes me believe that we'll be
together soon.

What do you think? Is it wrong to continue relations with him, and really just keep it as friends, or continue doing the spontaneous things?

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

Okay im going to be honest with you as i can and say it out ..he DOESNT like/love you. this guy or whatever he is put it easy for you and just said he wanted to be "friends" and for you to be "sure" that you love him. Girl he DOESNT love you at all. This guy is most likely seeing other people right not and doesnt want the commitment to be with you thats why he told you to go to "other ponds" so he probably wont feel guilty going around seeing other people if you arent doing it to. You are just a friend with benefits..i cant believe you would still have done the "deed" with him if you have no REALTIONSHIP with each other. girl use your head does this sort of realtionship seem right to you? do you want to be his "friend" and have sex with him when ever he feels like it and have no commitment? and what the hell is his problem by asking you to have his kid? WTF?!? I dont care what kind of life he has but he has NO RIGHT to ruin yours. I agree with krnxswat this guy only wants to be a lazy ass while you do all the work getting your education and maintaining his child while he still tells everyone who will listen that you guys are just FRIENDS with a KID.


Why dont you stop THINK and tell him that if you guys are going to be just friends you are not going to do any "DEED" with him. And he needs to finish his education or get off his lazy ass and get a job.

actually this guy is full of CRAP leave his ass and get a better guy who wont just use you when he feels like it. get a guy who will actually respect you.

have some respect towards yourself and highten your standards in guys this guy is full of bullshit.