boy problem i suppose, this is kinda long, sorry. Options

[letsgoxdisco]

okay, so my best friend is a guy. we have been best friends since freshmen year of high school, we are now juniors.

since the summer, we have been closer emotionally. during 10th grade, we were just like friends, but this year we are a little more involved, i guess you could say. like, there is more flirting, but nothing serious.

he jokes a lot about stuff, which is okay sometimes but there are times where i can never tell if he is serious.

lately he has been teasing me a lot about me liking him. for instance, the other day he told me that if i liked him, we would have to go out. and then today he said something like since we have been friends for so long, we have to start dating.

for a while, i really did like him. i pretty much thought about him all the time. but i never told him, i am really shy and thought it would make our relationship too awkward.

lately, i haven't really had those feelings. sure, he is cute. but i kinda thought trying anything else would be too risky. that was, until he started telling me all that stuff in the 4th paragraph.

so, with the urging of a few of my friends, i decided to ask him if he meant it. but i did it over AIM. i asked him if he meant what he said and he said "i guess. why?" then he goes "i knew you always liked me." i, of course, denied it.

then i kinda started getting mad at him for saying things that he didn't mean and he was annoyed because supposedly i was making it awkward. i accused him of not caring whether or not i liked him. and then he finally just signed off.

all i really wanted to know was if it really did matter if i liked him. i didn't expect him to like me or anything like that. but i guess maybe since i didn't actually admit i liked him, it didn't matter.

i don't have any way to contact him right now to know what he is feeling, and it probably is too soon anyway. but since i stupidly chose to do this over AIM i can't tell how he felt about any of it. i couldn't tell his tone or is reactions.

sorry this is so long.
i would really appreciate your insight on this. thanks.

[RememberTheForgo...]

I know this will probably suck for you to hear, becuase I know from experience that waiting around can break you heart just as easily...
But I dont thinkyou should panic right now. Give him a little while to cool off, or get used to whatever you said...and while your giving him this time you should decide whether you want him to know that you do like him romantically.

Then after some time (even if its only a day) talk to him. Tell him something like "Everything I said on AIM wasnt meant to come between us, I've just been really confused lately about where our relationship is." and then add in whatever else he needs to know. When you talk to him, make sure he knows how important your friendship is to you...and that you would never do anything that would come between you...and thats why the conversation on AIM was so confused and irritating.


Thats my suggestion, because thats what I normally end up doing if I end up in a situation like that.