My Mom. Options

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

So last week, my grandma (89 and on my mom's side) fell and broke her hip for the second time in three years. She was supposed to get surgery for it on Friday, but the doctor wouldn't let her because they said that she has a blood clot and her heart wouldn't react well with anesthetics and she might not wake up.
She lives in Beijing, along with my 2 aunts and my uncle went to take care of her. My mom can't go visit her until January because her company doesn't allow breaks until early January.

The first day my mom heard about it, she was really quiet and stayed in her room all day. Over the course of the week, she got really moody. Like I would say something to her and she'd scream at me and a few minutes later she'd be really nice.
Yesterday, she was just.. Normal? I really don't trust it. I know she's crying on the inside.

I really don't know how to respond to her.. I've been really nice to my mom lately and so has my little brother but I don't think it's doing much good. I think that she knows that we know that she's sad, so she's trying to hide it.

It's been affecting me too. Yesterday, my friends told me that I was a lot more outgoing and random than usual. It's because I've been trying to hide what's been going on inside my mind lately. I've just been thinking too much because I don't know what to do.

What should I say to my mom?
How do I keep myself from being overly-random?

Ok, it's really long, but if you read the whole thing, you're awesome.
Help, please?

[letsPlaydoctor.]

aaw.
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im sorry.

but i do this to my mom.
she always has issues.
its annoying sometimes, but whatev.
im her daughter.
i need to be there.

if shes ever alone in her room, give her her favorite drink, food, book, whatever.
and smile, greeting her.
then, if she smiles back, just say calmly..
"hey mom...my brother and i have noticed you've been acting differently. if you EVER EVER EVER need someone to talk to about grandma [or other issues. whichever is going on.] i'm always here. EVEN if you're at work, or just want someone to talk to..call me at school. i'll be happy to talk to you during class!" -smile here.-

that TOTALLY worked on my mom when my uncle had a week to live.
but my mom was SO stressed over my uncle.
he finally died, and she's more like...relieved. still sad, but he had cancer, pnemonia, and gang green in his legs.

ugh. so sad.

ENOUGH ABOUT ME AND MY DRAMA. hah.

but i hope everyone in your family are all okay. and for your mom not being able to go visit your grandma until jan.
i would call her job place, and say.
"LISTEN MO' FUUCKUHS. YOU WOULD WANT TO VISIT FAMILY IF THEY HAD TO HAVE SURGERY AND WHAT NOT. LET MY MOM GO TO BEJING, OR ELSE I'LL BE AFTER YOUR ASS FASTER THAN YOU CAN DIAL 911. GOT IT SHITHEADS?!? merry christmas!"