My Mom. Options

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

So last week, my grandma (89 and on my mom's side) fell and broke her hip for the second time in three years. She was supposed to get surgery for it on Friday, but the doctor wouldn't let her because they said that she has a blood clot and her heart wouldn't react well with anesthetics and she might not wake up.
She lives in Beijing, along with my 2 aunts and my uncle went to take care of her. My mom can't go visit her until January because her company doesn't allow breaks until early January.

The first day my mom heard about it, she was really quiet and stayed in her room all day. Over the course of the week, she got really moody. Like I would say something to her and she'd scream at me and a few minutes later she'd be really nice.
Yesterday, she was just.. Normal? I really don't trust it. I know she's crying on the inside.

I really don't know how to respond to her.. I've been really nice to my mom lately and so has my little brother but I don't think it's doing much good. I think that she knows that we know that she's sad, so she's trying to hide it.

It's been affecting me too. Yesterday, my friends told me that I was a lot more outgoing and random than usual. It's because I've been trying to hide what's been going on inside my mind lately. I've just been thinking too much because I don't know what to do.

What should I say to my mom?
How do I keep myself from being overly-random?

Ok, it's really long, but if you read the whole thing, you're awesome.
Help, please?

[OhMyAnniee]

Give her time. & give her hope (i.e. find some stories? or quotes?)

Maybe you could keep a journal? Unless you already do..
But that way, you can write all your feelings down so that you don't keep everything bottled up.

For your mom, just talk to her about things in general instead of detailed. I would think that she can't handle anything too overly detailed right now.

For your friends, isn't it nice to be outgoing though? But maybe you could just tell one of your friends that you really trust about your situation and it'll take some pressure off of yourself.

[think!IMAGINARIL...]

You should let her know that she doesn't have to hide her feelings. Tell her of a quote from chicken soup, 'shared sorrow is half the sorrow, shared happiness is double the happiness' let her know you're there for her to grief with her. Tell her it'll make her alot better to let it out than hide it.

Hope everything gets better!

I believe that's the nicest thing you've ever said to me. Thanks!

everyone grieves over things,
and most the time it's better just to let the grief pull out.
eventually things will get better.
but for now, just let her think things through
before she goes to visit your grandma.
she may also feel bad because she can't visit
even though she really wants to.
just let things pass.
time heals all wounds, no? :)

Yes, that's true. Although, I'm a little concerned of what she might do if my grandma dies.

Give her time. & give her hope (i.e. find some stories? or quotes?)

Maybe you could keep a journal? Unless you already do..
But that way, you can write all your feelings down so that you don't keep everything bottled up.

For your mom, just talk to her about things in general instead of detailed. I would think that she can't handle anything too overly detailed right now.

For your friends, isn't it nice to be outgoing though? But maybe you could just tell one of your friends that you really trust about your situation and it'll take some pressure off of yourself.

Well, I've been talking to her a lot lately, and I think that it's helping. And my sister is coming back from Boston later this week, so maybe that'll make her happier.

I already sorta keep a journal, but that's mostly private LJ entries..
And yeah, I should talk to one of my friends about this.


Thanks for your help everyone!