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I made a mistake. Should I tell him?
starsandmoons
post Nov 26 2006, 02:48 AM
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So I've been friends with Guy X for about 4 years now and 2 1/2 of those years I was deeply infatuated or in love with him whatever you want to call it. He asked me out at one point but he was just out of a relationship and I didn't want to be the rebound. It just wasn't the right time. After a week I ended up saying yes and by that time he had decided he only saw me as a friend. For 4 years we were best friends. The closest we could get. It was amazing the type of relationship we had I could tell him anything and everything and he would do the same with me. He moved away and our relationship suffered. We were still close but not the same.

Then I met Guy Z. He was everything I could hope for in a guy. Sweetest guy, but he was deeply scarred from his past relationship where his girlfriend cheated with her ex-boyfriend of a year or so and he caught them and later she turned lesbian. Nonetheless he was very carefully with me. He wasn't as attached or attentive, which kind of made it hard on me. Sounding much like a soap opera. It gets worse. Guy Z and I were together for about 7 months when one of my best friends invites me over to a sleepover. Guy Z has just recently started talking to his ex again and I'm jealous nonetheless because he starts lying to me about it.

The sleepover. Guy X is there and he is very persistent in his flirting. I constantly push him away, but eventually I let him. We made out. A lot. I... never imagined myself doing that. Things kind of got out of hand and the sad thing is Guy Z was on my mind the entire time. My boyfriend... I love him. Guy X and I had never had even kissed or anything before this even when we "liked" each other and now at the worst moment when I had finally gotten over him and was happily taken, he does this. I did this. I cheated. I don't want to lose my boyfriend, but I feel like I need to tell him, then again telling him could mean the end of 8 wonderful months. Guy X means nothing to me. We're not talking anymore. I've completely detached myself from him. He told one of my friends who then questioned me about it trying to pressure her to tell my boyfriend. A mess.

What should I do?
 
 
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starsandmoons
post Dec 7 2006, 07:38 PM
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Thanks for all of the advice. I guess its just hard to decide whether or not to tell him because that incident really had a lot of impact on me. I realized that my feelings for Guy X were completely gone and that I really did love my boyfriend. I finally feel ready to tell him that I love him. I finally feel like we've connected like I've never connected with anyone else, but you know its hard when someone brings Guy X up asking how come we're not ajoined at the hip like we use to be, how come we don't talk anymore. Its hard when cheating on him made me realize how scared I am of losing my boyfriend, as horrible as it may sound. I don't know... He's been amazing lately. Pure perfection. How do you reveal your faults to someone who has been nothing but wonderful to you?
 

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starsandmoons   I made a mistake. Should I tell him?   Nov 26 2006, 02:48 AM
Beauty in a Tragedy   I say you tell your boyfriend. I know it'll be...   Nov 26 2006, 07:00 AM
oX_Muh_Nirvana_Xo   Yeah, I would have to say tell your boyfriend ever...   Nov 26 2006, 08:04 AM
a painefull euphoria   your boyfriend was asking for it as he was lying a...   Nov 26 2006, 08:07 AM
starsandmoons   I don't know. The thought of him looking at me...   Nov 26 2006, 12:19 PM
Wo0yaPo0ya   I think you should tell your boyfriend what you di...   Nov 26 2006, 02:51 PM
x1227x   i think you should tell your boyfriend because, wh...   Nov 26 2006, 03:04 PM
xlitoxb   I think that if he's finally changed for you t...   Nov 26 2006, 03:41 PM
_sarcastic_   it's completely up to you. do you want to tell...   Nov 27 2006, 12:50 AM
showme   Make yourself seem innocent, okay tell your boyfri...   Nov 27 2006, 03:54 AM
WrathOfOnigo   Honestly you're better off NOT telling him. H...   Nov 28 2006, 10:25 PM
yaamakoh   QUOTE(WrathOfOnigo @ Nov 28 2006, 10:25 P...   Dec 1 2006, 02:41 PM
ryuusei   if you already detatched yourself from X, just tel...   Nov 29 2006, 01:48 AM
My Cinderella.   You will risk your boyfriend's trust. It is be...   Nov 30 2006, 11:57 PM
T0rmented_Soul   Ouch you put yourself in a bad situation. you let ...   Dec 1 2006, 12:08 AM
Infinite.   -shrugs- I don't even know if this chick even ...   Dec 1 2006, 10:43 AM
starsandmoons   Thanks for all of the advice. I guess its just har...   Dec 7 2006, 07:38 PM
krnxswat   All actions have consequences. You decided to make...   Dec 7 2006, 07:46 PM
xoxo_koala_kisses_   Obviously, you don't love the guy as you claim...   Dec 7 2006, 08:48 PM
xmoon_lightx   i think yu should tell him. who knows he might for...   Dec 11 2006, 07:30 PM
Hiphop d[-_-]b   Yes, you dirty, dirty whore.   Dec 11 2006, 09:01 PM


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