Best Friends, What they're suppose to do. Options

[BeautyInATragedy]

Alright, so I used to hangout with a big group of people. I got in a fight with one of the girls a month ago or so, let's call her Ego. Then I noticed that another friend wasn't talking to me (also a girl) Silent. These two girls were my closest friends, other than my best friend. I didn't know why Silent stopped talking to me for a while, but I tried so hard to fix things with her. In the end, she gave me an attitude so I dropped it. I moved on with my life and left them alone. By the way, this whole time, my best friend was caught in the middle since she was close friends with them too. Let's call her BF.

Well today, I was cruising around MySpace and found this comment Ego sent her friend. It talked about how I'm such a bitch. She said I talked shit about her, cheer, and her boy friend. But really, all I said was: "All you talk about now is cheer and Bob." His name is not really Bob. Anyway, she started calling me ugly and an attention seeker. Oh! And you can't forget FAKE! Anyway the point of this was she wrote this ugly comment that wasn't even close to the truth and made a big deal out of it. I made BF read it and all she said was "Well it was wrong for her to bring it up when you're already minding your own business." That's when I realized.. how come she doesn't have my back? I told her that, and she said, "Well, I can't choose sides. Ego is my friend too. I don't wanna say anything and make it worse." I told her I didn't want her to choose sides. I didn't know what I wanted her to do. But really, best friends are suppose to have your back right? She would get mad at people when they talk about her other friends, so why is it different this time? I'm her best friend but she chooses them over me now. She never hang out with me anymore. I was willing to do anything for her, I almost beat the shit out of this one girl for her. So why can't she even say "Stfu" or something to Ego. I don't know. I'm doubting my friendship with her. And I think I got her mad.

What should I do? What would you do if your best friend was like that? Would you leave her thinking she's not really a best friend, or what? I have the right to be mad at her, but at the same time, I can't. I don't want to lose her.

[evaleen]

Yeah, I suppose I agree with everyone else.

Just leave BF alone for a bit, see if she tries to help or comfort you eventually. If she doesn't and/or starts to side with Ego, then drop that chick.

I agree about "best-friends" being over-rated. To me, it look edlike Ego and Silent were just (close?) friends, not best friends. Best friends wouldn't just drop you like that.

BF seems to be on the border. To me she wants to help, but at the same time she may not care that much or is siding with Ego a bit. Either way, I don't think she's your best friend.

I, myself, do not have ANY best friends. I did back in middle girl, and I'm telling you, my friend Leah is what you call a best friend. When my first boy friend freaked with some other girl, she cursed out the guy like he was caught in bed with the girl. And whenever I was having an issue with anything, no matter who it was with, she had my back. No doubt.

That's what a best friend is, someone who is there for you no matter what. They should be able to comfort you but at the same time knock some sense into you.

In the end, it's up to you. I say drop them all, but MAYBE give BF some time to see if she's come to her senses. If not, down the toilet she goes. They aren't worth your precious time.