In Love? Can you be in love with some one before you meet them?, crazy isnt it? maybe...maybe not..i dont know Options

[xxtaintedlips]

I NEED HELP! Im kinda in love with this guy. The crazy thing is, I have never met him. This is the wierd part ok. Well my best guy friend who likes me introduced us in a friend chat room. So we got to know each other and have chatted about just everything. This included everything from orgasims to our future. hehe. The only thing is...well now i have not talked to him online for more than a week. Wich is very wierd as he is always on. I believe that his parents kicked him off the computer because he needs a job (which he just got) to pay for the internet. Im hoping thats it and we can talk again. Becaue its killing me not talking to someone made out of the same stuff as me. Is this making any sense? I just dont know what to do to pass the time.

EDIT- also he lives 16 hours way from me in canada. =/

[nezumi]

hmm I can't make this shorter...
Well I used to think that online relationships were impossible and hard to deal with, until a friend of mine introduced me to this guy through the internet. We really fell in love. It may seem weird because we are from different countries (but we speak the same language) and we had never seen each other, but we both did fall in love. He was so nice, funny, cute and he thought the same about me... and we later met, a few month ago actually. We spent a few days together. He was exactly like I thought he was when i talked to him online. But he finally said to me, when we had to leave each other, that I was not like he had imagined me, not physically he really found me cute and nice, but he didn't like my being so much. Well he thought I was too shy... that's how he broke up whereas I loved him a lot. It hurt me so much! And sadly, now I don't talk to him any more because I find him selfish and actually he doesn't even want us to stay friends! That's only after that I realized his true personality. You need much time, believe me.

I said this to make you understand how hard it is to show yourself online the way you are in real life. Many times people are disappointed. Sometimes the person is very different from what you imagined. And sometimes it works out very well. I know at least two persons who met their boyfriend this way and they have been together for over 3 years. I were not that lucky...
Distance is not necessarily a problem, but it demands patience from both you and your boyfriend, and there will be a time you will want to live next to each other...

So I just advise you to wait until you know him better and you meet him in person. I have learned a lot thanks to my experience and now I'll never fall in love with a guy online again, not until I meet him. Try to forget this guy for a while and think of people who are next to you... at least until you decide to see him.